I’m 39 and came off the pill before Christmas but for one thing or another we didn’t try properly until this month. Partly because of covid and not knowing whether to wait.
I done a test yesterday and it was negative. DP was really upset. I was gutted seeing how upset he was.
I’ve always said I’ve been very lucky in that I’ve had 2 children with my ex and I conceived the first month with both of them. DP knows this 🙄
I always appreciate how lucky I am, as I know many people struggle and spend years trying. I know I’ve had certainly had great fortune.
I’ve tried to tell him he needs to put it in perspective and if takes the average couple 6 months.
But I am wondering if we have left it too late in all honestly and I suppose I feel bad about that. It’s ok for me as I have 2 children but as he hasn’t got any, I think he’ll be in bits if it doesn’t happen.
I feel like we’re going to end up in the same situation, as I always felt lucky that I never found myself in. Every month doing the test and adding that bit of extra pressure in the the next month.
I don’t really know what I’m trying to say other than I feel really bad for him. It’s as if he feels it’s fault but it’s more likely mine being this age or it could no ones and it will happen.
It’s all the not knowing.
I always felt sorry for the couples that try for ages and then can’t and now I’ve got this horrible feeling that’s going to be us. Again I’m gutted fir DP not me