Trying to stay positive, how? - ttc post miscarriage

[CAnary0]

This is my first cycle since miscarriage so I knew it wasn’t necessarily going to lead to a bfp as my hormones needed to settle and I couldn’t track ovulation etc but being faced with pink discharge today has made it a challenge to keep my mood up!

How does everyone else do this - if you do?!
In theory I am due any day from today until Sunday so I expect this is af and I haven’t been lucky this month. I *think I’m only 9dpo so would have had a short luteal phase too which won’t have helped.

Fingers crossed for next month. I know I need to think positive and believe but it’s so hard and that gnawing doubt of ‘will this happen for me?’ Creeps in and out of my mind.
Ugh!

hi OP,

sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I experienced one myself in 2018 and after ttc for a while. it was a very challenging time. the things that helped me were making sure I was healthy as I could be - even if this wouldnt make a difference it made me feel somehow in control in that I was doing everything I could to encourage a healthy pregnancy. I know it doesnt feel like it now but I also tried to look at my period arriving after as a positive - as callous as it sounds but a fresh slate and I was relieved in a way that I had got my period back after a reasonable amount of time at all - I had read some on here saying it had took months whereas it took mine 5 weeks to come back. I know it doesnt feel like it now but take it as it has happened - your body can do it and miscarriage is common sadly. 1 in 4 recognised pregnancies which is a horrible statistic. however, it is not common to have recurring miscarriages nor to not fall pregnant again. most women who have one will go on to have a healthy pregnancy after.

it took me 4 months after my miscarriage to fall again with DD.

all the best x

@tartanbow thank you for your reply.
This is my second miscarriage so I think that’s why it’s hitting me harder in terms of being hopeful. I have had a daughter in between - she’s seven - so that is something I hold on to!
In reality I hope it will happen and know eventually i should get my rainbow. One day!
Agree with what you said about body returning to normal - I am appreciative that although I’ve had to go through this I have had a ‘textbook’ experience this time so to speak so I can ttc quickly and not be in limbo. Who knew before we wanted children how complex it could get

oh that's really shit - sorry you've had to go through this twice! it's such a tough part of ttc - takes away the innocence of pregnancy too I found, the first trimester was almost unbearable.

I hope for you that it is just round the corner. yeah, that's the only slight positive from an otherwise really crappy time, cycles going back to normal should mean being able to try again sooner rather than later

Hi @CAnary0

Sorry to hear about your MC. I've had 2 early ones in a row now (within 5 months) and found the first cycle after each the hardest in terms of hoping for another positive. I think the hormones have a lot to do with it!

My GP has just normalised everything and is very positive about the fact I'm getting pregnant. It is more likely than not just bad luck and we will both be fine!

Hey I’m so sorry about your miscarriages

I’m exactly the same- had a miscarriage on April1st and AF arrived 6 weeks later on the 15th May- really couldn’t track anything due to not knowing when my cycle would return and I totally missed the window. Hoping to start ttc from this month onwards. I’m getting through just knowing that I can get pregnant now and the happiness I once felt will be there again it’s just a matter of time

Sometimes we are just dealt some awful cards at life but I found comfort in knowing most miscarriages are due to genetic abnormalities and at the end of the day all we want is a healthy pregnancy and a healthy baby at the end of it all! Just know that when you do get your AF it means you can start trying again soon! Baby dust to you xx