Delaying TTC due to coronavirus, while several friends are having babies - give me some perspective!

[Lagirl20]

Hi everyone

Long story short, I am newly married and was planning to get going with TTC this spring. My partner and I are now delaying until the coronavirus situation improves, for several non-negeotiable reasons (I am in an at risk group, etc.). I am 32 so I guess we still have some time on our side, but I am really struggling with the disappointment especially as I don't know how long it will be before we can try. Realistically I think it will be early 2021. We've put this off for a while, to achieve other goals, and I'm so sad that we're being stopped right at the point where we are ready to get started.

Several of my friends are due to give birth in the coming months and I am struggling a lot with jealousy and feeling down. I'm trying to look on the positive side of this, as we're both still working and saving money, and that I am mid 30s, but honestly I'm really struggling. I've had to start avoiding group chats as all they (understandably) talk about is pregnancy and birth.

If anyone has any advice about coming to terms with the disappointment and jealousy, please share. I am aware that this is not a terrible situation and that I have time on my side, I'm being very dramatic and need some perspective.

How much more at risk would you be if you were pregnant vs now? If you are in an at risk group and are shielding anyway, being pregnant wouldn't change your situation much would it? But if as you say your reasons are non-negotiable, then maybe just use this time to get in the best physical shape you can be so when the time is right you'll be in the best position for a healthy pregnancy. I don't think there is much you can do about your feelings of jealousy except make peace with those feelings somehow - easier said than done though I know :)

I think that the way you’re feeling is totally normal (at least that what I tell myself as I can relate to what you’ve said ) One of the things that I’ve tried to do (which doesn’t always work) is to think positively that one day I’ll be able to join in with such discussions and the excitement that comes with it. I’ve also mentioned to a few of my friends that, although I’m really happy for them, I’ve removed myself from some of the group chats as it’s a sensitive subject at the moment but I will 100% be there for them if they need to chat one-on-one about anything.
Take care of yourself

Why have you decided to put things on hold? Are you particularly at risk?

Plenty of other people are actively TTC at the moment.