TTC is taking so long, I'll be an old lady before i'm a mum!

[flosspot]

How long have you been ttc? Thus far I'm nearly two years in...on Clomid, with one mc. Am feeling a little despondent, so am slinking off to a despondent corner thread to have apity-party. Feel free to join.

Hi Flosspot - fancy seeing you here
I have been ttc for 13 months now, feels like an eternity.
It feels as if everyone around me is getting pregnant. An old school friend caught up with me this week, and she is pg. I just feel like the world is against me some days.

I know it sounds melodramatic. But it's hard going!

I am still in my 20s and people say, that we have plenty of time etc - and whilst I know that it's probably true. I can't help feeling miffed, because my heart still aches, despite only being 28.

Ok... I better stop feeling sorry for myself, it just isn't good enough!

2 years this month. even tho i have ds im very aware that i should have another by now but i dont so we are officially giving up. come and join us in the hut. we have gin fizzes

Yes, give up trying. Thats what we did (and we really did cos I was 41 so it was heartbreaking) and then had 2 babies in 16 months.

Took 3.5yrs to conceive the first time. Had m/c. Another 7 months to conceive dd. Now been trying for number 2 for 10 months, without success. So much for people saying that having a baby kickstarts your fertility!

having said that we were ttc ds for 4y and had just had first meeting with adoption social worker when i fell pg with ds.
still, cant cope with another mc so def no ttc for a while

I will be 60 at DC3's 21st ... so not a big fan of the title of this thread!

I took 21 mths with DS1, 8mths with DS2, and 14mths with this one which is not due till May when I will be 39. The big kicker for me to conceive in all three cases has been being relaxed e.g., I think working in a high pressure job is an absolute killer for my fertility! I recommend seeing a good naturopath and trying to shed some of the more stressful things in your life - and not worrying so much about age. The kids couldn't care less how old you are - you just are.

lissie, does that mean you don't want the stuff I have packaged up for you???

Only 60 aussie?
At ds2's 21st I'll be a couple of months off 65 and hopefully retiring at 64.11 as that should be when he finishes uni... hope he doens't want to do post grad or he'll need a good part time job!

took me two years and finally cracked it on last dose of a six month course of clomid.

im 40 and am currently 7mths pg

good luck everyone

hmm, could i still have it please? i know that as soon as my period stops i will be back ttc. just having a bit of a down period iykwim

course you can

see, cant even not ttc properly

and thank you x

Thanks everyone. DOn't know why I'm so fed up, well I do actually- another month, another BFP. Yet I dd everything right....go figure.

There's always next month, right. And, as every doctor I have seen thus far has adi, as I'm only thirty, I've got time on my side.

Will take on board what you said about stress though....have heard giving up is the best way to succeed. Good thing we don't teach that to our kids!!!

Oh, and hello Ready (((Flosspot waves manically. No change there then))))

I've been ttc no.1 for 13 months. I had a missed mc in February, then an ep at the beginning of August. At the moment I'm having a major panic because the ep was in my left tube and although it wasn't removed, I don't know how damaged it is. Then after the op the doctor mentioned in passing that I had 'some' adhesions on my right tube. Now I've convinced myself that both tubes are ruined and I'll never conceive again. I definitely need to join the pity-party

took me 10 yrs to conceive my 2nd child !

Sending you lots of hugs Flosspot xx

Oh dear. This question has come at a bad time! Prepare for self-pitying rant.

I'm 41, and have only been TTCing for three years. But in that time I've had four miscarriages, the last three at between 11 and 13 weeks. The last one was in March, and broke my heart.

Everyone around me is getting pregnant, and I'm finding it increasingly difficult to even see them, let alone be nice. And to cap it all my younger sister has just told me she's pregnant with her third. All conceived with no problem. All nicely spaced with two years apart. All going according to f*cking plan. I can't even phone her, as feel so resentful.

I've had all the tests, and there's no physical reason for my miscarriages. But the last two losses had trisomies, partly due to age. All the docs say I've got a good egg reserve, and will get lucky some day, but in the meantime life seems so pointless. I've got a lovely DP, a good job, all that, but sometimes I feel so bereft. Anyone got any top tips to make things feel worthwhile?

Sorry for the vent - but I'm sure you all understand. Not many people do!

Sorry! I seem to have killed the thread with my misery...

Move along... nothing to see here...

herbaceous - a lot of what you say rings a bell with me. I'm only 29 and I have a lovely dh and job, but I'm unbearably unhappy. I too feel resentful of pregnant women. I feel like there's no hope for me .

Herby- long time no see. Hope you are well!

Hi Flossie!

I'm OK. Well, not that OK, but keeping going. Which is the only option, really, after all!

Gosh, this thread is super depressing!! 2years trying, I feel really awful now that I am clucking after 2mths. It puts things in perspective.

Did y'all have fertility testing etc? I am concerned that because i've been on the pill for so long (12yrs without a break) that it isnt going to happen for me.