Scared

[Belalice]

I got my BFP a week ago now and I am so grateful for that, but how does anyone cope with the fear of miscarriage? I am scared and anxious about it all the time, I don't know how I will be able to wait for the 12 week scan to make sure everything is ok. We live on a rural island and we are not able to travel to the mainland due to lockdown, so I won't be able to get a private scan before that. Every post I read on here mentions posters really sad experiences with chemicals or missed miscarriages and I am so frightened after finally getting our BFP that this will happen to us too.

Please don't be worried there are lots of sad stories out there but also very happy ones too.

Try not to worry I know it's hard but take it easy.

Are you feeling well? Lockdown is difficult just now to

Xx

@belalice I've been lucky enough to have an early scan but it still is in the back of my mind and will be until I can feel movement. There are a lot of people on here who unfortunately haven't had a successful pregnancy but please remember you see a lot of these because these people reach out for support and offer advice to others who have concerns. There are soooooo many people who have successful pregnancies and healthy babies but perhaps don't comment as they aren't looking for advice or can't relate to people who are seeking advice x

Pregnancy is not always the happiest of time with all the anxiety and restrictions but just remember if you are healthy you are doing everything you can already.
Fear of mc is real because mc are common unfortunately. Outside of MN you are not so much aware but it is very much the reality of a lot of women but not most women. That being said, stressing or thinking about it won't change the outcome.
Try to remember that it is an amazing that you are going through and try to cherish this moment as much as you can. Keep positive thoughts and focus on the good things and what will most likely come out of it which is a healthy baby :)
And if you are one of the unlucky ones then you will continue your journey and be given another chance later...
Whatever happens it will be ok OP.

Thank you so much, I really needed to hear what you all are saying. My midwife has managed to offer me an early scan because of my PCOS, so at least I'll have some idea of what is going on right now.

@Rebecca299 it's been a bit of a hard year so lockdown has got me pretty anxious anyway, although I think I would always find this difficult! Thank you for asking, how are you coping?

@msb86 you're absolutely right of course, I didn't think about it like that. It just seems like all I hear are the sad stories and it panics me every time I hear a new one. I hope your early scan was ok and that everything goes well for you and your wee baby

@SunnySideUp2020 thank you, you've given me some properly good advice. After struggling to get pregnant, I thought once the BFP arrived then the anxieties would be over, wow was I wrong

Sorry I just seen tour reply today. I'm feeling ok up and down just depends on the day.

Feeling like today will be a good day xx