Loosing the will

[littlebitleaveit]

Hi everyone. Bit of a feel sorry for me post really as I just feel totally crap right now! Next month marks three years since we started trying for a baby and I'm so sick of seeing pregnancy announcements and people telling us 'it will happen' why is life so unfair 😞

Hi @littlebitleaveit read your post I completely know how you feel I am 3 years trying longer it going on the harder it is. I had hope when we first start now the hope completely kills me so I have lost all hope. When I get bad day they are really bad dark days special around when mother nature lands. I tell people now never mind it will happen you don't know what it feels like you sniff a penis and become pregnant so don't tell me it will happen😀. Also spent fortune on fertility stuff 100 it all crap. Then covid hit when I was going for IVF I think the world is against us . You are not alone if you need a rant cry scream just do it let it all out I don't mind I done it all . I even threw my partner out once told him he better off with out me and find another women who could give him what he wanted he came back with flowers and drink so I let him back in there has been crazy times xxxx

Thankyou for taking you're time to reply! Bless your heart I understand it's just so frustrating! Good luck with your ivf once all this is over! We have decided to let nature take its course and wait untill I'm 30 ( 2 years) to give us some time to save up and try not to think too much into it untill then! Although I just get so angry and think, well there's nothing wrong so WHY should we have to go through all of that! X

OP if you're only 28 and you've been trying for three years then you're entitled to fertility investigations. You don't necessarily need IVF. What if it's something that is a relatively easy fix?

Thankyou for your advice however I'm not entitled to it on the nhs as I have a child from a previous relationship. Which may I add I'm very lucky and grateful for but I'm so desperate for a child with my fiancé. We have had our appointments with the fertility specialist however and everything came back normal xx

What tests have you had? Do you track your ovulation?

We had the ovulation blood tests. Two semen analysis, I had a hycosy as well. I track ovulation and get a positive each month but it still doesn't work! X

Over on infertility section on here there loads of threads about secondary infertility might be something on there for you. I am 30 been 3 years trying loads of issues like low sprem so thats why we doing it xxxx

@littlebitleaveit I so relate to this feeling, we are 3 years trying, I am 28 and have PCOS. We also aren't entitled to NHS support as my partner has a child from a previous relationship.
Some days I'm really positive and hopeful, others I wonder that it'll never happen for us. Especially with facebook posts every 5 minutes of new babies and grand pregnancy announcements and gender reveals, it does all get too much sometimes. I'm with you sister.

@VillageRoseBlue bless you 😞 it's bloody horrible isn't it. I'm forever coming off social media for a while as I cannot bear to see it! It all just makes no sense and it's completely out of our control isn't it. I just don't know what to say. I think every now and then we feel a bit emotional and it gets the better of us! I feel as were 'young' it's not taken as seriously x

@Hoping1 Thankyou lovely xx