11 months ttc

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Hey everyone,

This is my first post. I have just turned 34. My DH and I have been ttc for 11 months. Currently in the 2WW. (4dpo) We have had tests done privately and both seem to be fine but every month it's always a BFN. Feeling sad to be approaching the one year mark. I am also feeling isolated from a lot of my friends who I haven't told about ttc.

Does anyone have any positive stories of conceiving naturally after 11 months. Sending love to anyone in a similar situation.

Thanks x

I'm sorry I don't have a positive story for you (yet) but just wanted to let you know you're not alone .

I'm 31, DH is 36 and we're ttc #1. I fell pregnant in cycle 1 9 days after having my coil removed but miscarried just before 6 weeks and now we're in cycle #12 post MC.

Totally understand how you feel, TTC has been so much harder than I realised and although I've had months where I've coped quite well the longer it goes on the more I feel like I'm losing the plot! It's so hard not being able to talk to your family and friends when there are times of the month it consumes you, and although I'm a bit of a lurker I find it hard to post on here as some of the threads are so established and sometimes the good news breaks my heart that little bit more!

The one thing that makes me feel better is the thought that every month that passes we're a month closer to our baby - however we get there 💜

Hiya have u tried using the clear blue ovulation tests xx

Hello

Not sure if this is an exact parallel to you but I had my first DD after a month of trying ridiculous and unplanned but a lovely surprise and at 28 it took me and my partner just under a year with our second DD.

I was reading up about secondary infertility went to the doctors etc no actual tests to rule anything out though. The doctor we saw told us to stop using ovulation sticks etc and the month we stopped 'caring' we conceived.

Just wanted to say your not alone I was really worried and felt so alone and had basically given up. I naively thought as we were reasonably young it would be easy but obviously not.

Fingers crossed for you

Sorry you are going through this. Me and my partner are in a similar situation, 16 months ttc. We are both 26, healthy etc, I have had some bloods done before the lockdown and they came back normal. Going to have some more tests once we can but it's very frustrating when it takes thing long x

I fell pregnant with my first after 13 months aged 30. I found the last 7 months or so of that time incredibly difficult. The month I fell pregnant we were having a break from from trying as I was struggling. We had drunken sex once that month and I fell pregnant.
I’m pregnant with my second currently and fell in the first month of trying which came as a huge shock having mentally prepared to be In it for the long haul.
Sometime there’s just no rhyme or reason why it’s not happening. Try to look after yourself; I know how hard mentally it is when it’s taking a long time.

Hiya. Took us 11 months of proper trying. 2 months with clear blue digital ovulation tests. I'm 33 and partner is 36.

Thank you all so much for replying. It was my first ever message on here - I am normally a lurker too. It feels so nice to be connecting with women in a similar position or who have experienced something similar. All your words have given me a little lift on a really emotional day. Thank you. X

@Gemster19 - I am so sorry to hear about your miscarriage and sending you lots of love and positive vibes for your current cycle. X

@starfish18 - yes I am using Clear Blue ovulation sticks. I find them really helpful and I get static smilies every month. My cycles are like clockwork, every 28 days. X

@startswithanL - thank you that story gives me hope. And congratulations! X

@handbaglover93 - good luck with your tests! Such a relief that fertility clinics have opened again now. I hope you get your other tests done quickly. X

@Scubalubs87 - how lovely and what a relief that you conceived number two so quickly! Thank you for sharing your story - it's really comforting to know! X

Thanks @Cheesewine and congratulations!

I know No one has posted since may but is anyone still in the same boat? We've been trying nearly a year and really struggling

@kerrym87 have you had any success since you last posted? ❤️Feeling very helpless at the moment - been ttc baby no #1 since April and it just doesn’t appear to be happening. Feeling very low about the whole thing.

@sunshineandshowers3 unfortunately not. Now going into month 17 partner has low sperm count, I've got signs of PCOS and we've got an initial appointment at infertility clinic on 6th. Just had 2 pregnancy announcements on fb on Xmas day (one I knew about...best friend 4th baby happy accident but she rang me and was really supportive) and AF came 23rd so been a bit if a shit Xmas! Sorry I haven't got more positive things !

@kerrym87 I’m really so very sorry to hear this. Glad you have an initial appointment at the fertility clinic though and have everything crossed for you and some positive news. If you don’t mind me asking, is this an NHS or private appointment?

One of my closest friends told me she was pregnant today-her second. She only came off contraception in June. Feel so very flat and alone about it all.

How have you managed to cope the last 17 months? I’m in awe of you- it’s so hard each and every month xxx

It's NHS got appt within 2 months of first referral. It's really hard, friend fell pregnant recently and best friend happy accident but best friend has has losses so very sensitive so it doesn't hurt with her, I'm normally involved a lot (not so much with covid). It's hard, it's a case of still trying to to nice stuff together so not doesn't take over, not making bd a chore or pressured (We started using insemination too to hit the right times without exhaustion!) Keep taking to each other and seek support when you need it, it's ok to feel crap. There's mental health support still out there if needed too x