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Someone give me advice please??

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WineLover1234 · 11/05/2020 19:20

Okay so I will try and keep this as short as I can. Myself and my fiancé were due to get married Sunday just gone. As lockdown began back in march, we knew our wedding would not go ahead. We then decided to start trying to conceive on the 4th April. I came off the pill on the 4th april, and we have been trying ever since. However, I have only just finished my natural AF which took only 3 weeks to come after coming off the pill. My period tracker estimates we will hopefully be fertile most of this week. I have been very excited to start trying and hoping it will go somewhere... However, we had originally re scheduled our wedding for this coming September, and I was happy with the fact i'd have been a few months pregnant (hopefully) at that time, but we have now rearranged our wedding today, yet again! lol. We are now due to get married 14th may next year. The only problem now is that our wedding is 52 weeks away. I've been panicking that we are trying to cram it all into one year. Ideally it would take this whole month to conceive(in an ideal world),i'd then be pregnant for 40ish weeks, and then due to get married 9 weeks or so later.. Would we be mad to do this? I'm wondering if any one on here has ever got married and had a very young baby at their wedding? Was it stressful? Or would you not have had it any other way? I've weighed out pros and cons obviously, however i'm not sure if we should wait, or just do it! My fiancé is keen to keep trying, but we really only have this month to decide, other wise my due date would be too close to the wedding! Plus I've just done my first ovulation test this evening and there's a faint line! And it's bang on, on the week of my predicted fertile window! Please help, a very confused woman! haha xxxxx

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Bleepers · 11/05/2020 19:32

This is super tough and I don't think anyone can decide for you but I would say do not get married 9 weeks after your baby arrives unless you are doing a super low key thing. I know some people will disagree but 9 weeks after my baby I was knackered and fat. Not how I wanted to feel on my wedding day!

WineLover1234 · 11/05/2020 19:56

@Bleepers This is what's worrying me. Bless you I'm sorry you felt like that! I understand its a decision only we can make xxxxx just gutted we didn't ttc sooner! Xx

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HK92 · 11/05/2020 19:59

I haven't personally done this but my brother and SIL did. It was the most lovely day, there child was older than 9 weeks though. But the financial impact was tough going! Trying to pay for a wedding whilst on maternity leave wasn't the best of ideas! But if your financial situation is more stable then that might not be worry for you. However if you don't conceive right away, you could well be pregnant on your wedding day.

Expat30 · 11/05/2020 20:01

Faint line doesn't mean positive. Both have to be the same strength for it to indicate ovulation

WineLover1234 · 11/05/2020 20:05

@Expat30 ah okay I see. Well I would keep testing through out the week to see how the strength of the line is xxx thank you for the heads up Flowers

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WineLover1234 · 11/05/2020 20:07

@HK92 thank you for your response! I know I seem so irresponsible coming on here and asking advice for something only we could decide! But needed a kick up the back side to see what's best really!! Xxx

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HK92 · 11/05/2020 20:14

@WineLover1234 don't seem irresponsible at all. It's always nice to see if other people have been in the same situation! Whatever you decide, I'm sure it will all be fine, good luck !

33Carr · 11/05/2020 20:23

See what the outcome is this month, and if you don't fall pregnant this month, try again in a few months if you were happy to get married while pregnant? Best of luck, exciting times ahead!!!

WineLover1234 · 11/05/2020 20:28

@33Carr this is exactly what I was thinking! Obviously if nothing happened this month I'd hold off until end of summer. And I wouldn't be bothered about being pregnant during the wedding. Thank you for your reply Flowers

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33Carr · 11/05/2020 20:31

I think that's your answer then! Keep us posted if you're successful this month!! Xx

WineLover1234 · 11/05/2020 20:47

@33Carr I will for definite Flowers xx

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