2 week wait and extremely worried

[dancingmama]

So my DH has just lost his job. We decided to carry on TTC but sat down last night and agreed that with everything going on right now, we should stop. Problem is now we are in the 2 week wait and I'm concerned.

I desperately want a baby but at the same time I'm panicking that we made a mistake by carrying on during these uncertain times. The 2 week wait is always hard but now I have so many emotions.

Sorry to hear about your husband's work, must be really stressful for you. However try not to worry about being in the 2WW, what will be will be and you'll make it work either way. When will you do a test? X

I'm right at the start of the 2WW. I want to be pregnant so badly! And we can afford to have no income for a while as we have savings, so I know it will be ok.

I guess it's loads of things worrying me now. Like will this still be going on in 9 months? A second peak? Not being able to see my family? Being out of work for a seriously long time?

A huge huge part of me doesn't want to stop TTC either as I'm so desperate for a baby. Just feeling all the emotions.

That's good you've got some savings so know you can rely on that for a while if needs be. A lot of things are up in the air at the moment and can totally understand your worry but I'm still actively TTC as would rather have a baby and find ways to navigate the situation than the alternative which is not having a baby and wishing I did. It took me a year to conceive my last son so could take the same again this time and the world could look v.different in a year. What does your husband think best? X

Oh that’s so hard and confusing I’m really sorry to hear about your DHs job but it’s great you’ve got some savings to fall back onto for now.

My husband and I also decided to stop TTC at the start of my 2ww. I did turn out to be pregnant and I can’t pretend I wasn't so worried and upset at first (despite it being a very wanted second baby for us) but over the last 6 weeks I’ve been feeling much calmer. My husbands job is at risk (retail) but we will figure something out. Corona is going to be around a long time so in some ways I’m glad the choice was taken away from me because I don’t have enough fertile time left (probably) to wait for a vaccine. Things will be very different in 9 months and even if we are in another winter lockdown you’ll still be okay.

Deep breaths. If you are you are and you’ll be okay whatever happens.

Thanks for the replies. It's nice to know that I'm not alone.
My husband is a very VERY laidback person so he's not stressed at all. I think if I said I definitely wanted to carry on TTC he would carry on, but he's of the opinion that it would be sensible not to. Part of me just wants to go for it. I dunno... is it crazy to carry on TTC when we're both unemployed...? We can afford it but obviously no idea how much of our savings we'll have to spend until I/he gets a job.

@dancingmama we're in the same boat. My DH isn't in work right now and I'm a freelancer, so if this carries on for many more months and I do end up PG, we'll be losing our only source of income for a while. My DH works in an industry that will likely be the last to recover. Like you, I'm in the TWW now and I hope we're pregnant, but I do having anxiety over the situation we're in is normal - even if it's not how I pictured how it would be.

That said, I haven't even thought about stopping TTC. The only time I wanted to stop was through April, so baby didn't have a Christmas birthday (as that must suck).

I totally get it, but someone once told me "if you wait for your circumstances to be perfect for a baby, you may miss the chance" and I think about all the people I know who have had kids with no money, on their own, in the middle of emigrating, etc. and they all managed. I've been waiting until I felt ready, had more money, etc. and I'm now the wrong side of 35 TTC for my first. Digging deep to banish those "OMG, what am I doing" feelings, but know it'll be ok x