TTC help

[Lindsey02]

Hi I’m new here if this isn’t allowed please delete.

My first pregnancy was a blighted ovum which was tough. 6 months later I conceived my little boy who is now 3. I am now trying for another baby however I’m my own worst enemy. Once I got my heart sent on something it’s all I want, all I can think about and I send myself crazy. This makes me feel selfish as I know some families aren’t fortunate enough to have what I do.

This is our first cycle trying I am currently on CD 16 and we DTD CD 12 and 14. I had a positive opk yesterday and have EWCM today. I feel confused as I’ve not looked into it this much before. Do I have a good chance?

Firstly can I say, I totally understand and sympathise with you. I also have a 1 year old DC which we were fortunate enough to conceive on cycle 1 of trying, but once we decided we wanted to try for another im so impatient and just want it to happen now. However, I think in terms of managing expectations, it would be wrong for anyone to tell you "your chances of conceiving are high" because regardless of whether you DTD at exactly the right time to catch your ovulation date, there is still only a 25% chance of a completely healthy couple with no issues TTC actually getting pregnant.

So, to answer your question, you have a good enough chance in that you DTD within your fertile week so there should be a good chance that you've caught it, however, if you received a positive OPK yesterday (which OPK's do you use?) then that usually indicates that you'll ovulate between 12-36 hours after. So I would recommend DTD again if you are able to.

Best of luck to you!

Thank you so much for your reply.

I have got the boots own brand pack of 7 so they have the 2 windows with coloured lines. It’s so surprising how it can take over so much. It’s all I can think about. Do you mind me asking how long have you been TTC?

I don’t think my age is on my side either as I am 35 . I keep trying to stay positive and telling myself I’m pregnant etc to hope the universe works on my positivity as crazy as it sounds.

It doesn't sound crazy, positivity absolutely helps - even if it's just your mindset, it definitely helps to be positive and I believe you get back from the universe what you put in.

I'm 32 and this is cycle 3 for us, but the first cycle we weren't actively trying and I didn't track ovulation or anything, just went by my BBT. I used clearblue ovulation sticks for the first time this month and ovulated later than i thought I would (I have pretty regular cycles) so that was interesting to know. I got my first positive OPK on day 14 and we DTD on day 11, 14, 14, 15 & 16. Probably overkill but I really wasn't sure exactly when I was ovulating so didn't want to miss it.

But yes I agree and I think many many other women who are TTC would agree that it's absolutely all consuming. As much as we try to relax and just be hopeful, when it doesn't happen it's crushing. Even for the lucky ones like us who have children and know we can technically conceive without an issue.

35 isn't old, my mum had 5 kids between the ages of 21 and 39 and even at 39, she conceived my brother within 2 months and then went through the menopause at 40. So it just goes to show, it's definitely not impossible.