How did you and your OH decide to start TTC?

[Bertie97]

Me and my fiance have been together for 8 years, he already has 1 DD10 and contact with her has not been easy thanks to psychotic BM. The whole situation has made him wary about wanting any more children. We've talked about it in the past and he's always said he does want more but that he didn't have a great experience first time around and tries to change the subject pretty swiftly. I think he may be a bit scared based on his previous experience in parenting. I've been thinking about TTC a lot lately but I don't know how to approach the subject with my fiance. We get married in 2022 and I'd like to start trying shortly after. Any suggestions on how to approach the subject?

Me and my OH have been together for a long while. At the beginning he always said he wanted kids when he reached 30. He turned 30 a few years ago and wasn't ready at all. I've never really pushed it because I'm younger than him anyway and haven't been ready myself from a career/life perspective!! Last year he completely surprised me by announcing that he thinks we should have a baby... so a year on after lots of discussions about when to start trying and coming off the pill etc we'd decided we would start trying this month.... now not entirely sure we will with the whole coronavirus thing but we might anyway... I know it can take a while to actually happen!! So in my experience you bide you time and wait and in the end they decide it's a good idea! To be fair we came to the decision at about the same time