42 and TTC

[Anja007]

Hello, just hoping to hear some good news stories. I'm 42 and TTC with 2nd. I've had 2 consecutive MMC and dont want to lose hope xx

Honestly, your chances are extremely low (i'm in the same boat age wise). It does happen though.

Yeah I was thinking that. Just wondered if there were any positive outcomes.

Chances are not extremely low at all unless you’ve had tests to confirm your ovarian reserve. Many people can and do get pregnant in their early forties and some can in their mid to late forties
too. Don’t give up yet. There are a few threads on here on pregnancy forum with ladies
In their forties who are currently pregnant (one is 49). Also there is a ttc for over 40’s thread

Good luck!

Thankyou, this is what I want to hear xx

I had my three healthy, beautiful children naturally conceived aged 39, 40 and 43 and with a high BMI. One miscarriage in between the successful pregnancies. It's not easy (much higher risk of various conditions, the fatigue, the effect on your body) but it's doable. We're thinking about trying for a fourth. Must be mad.

I had my DD when I was 40. Pregnancy was fine (I bled a lot but that was nothing to do with my age). And I got pregnant with her having only had sex once that month! I don't think I struggled in that pregnancy anymore than anyone else did. I was really fit and still going to the gym when I was 7 months. I also coped / am coping with a baby who just isn't into sleeping at all.

I'm now trying again at 42. My periods have definitely changed. They have gotten shorter since I had my DD and I used to be able to feel ovulation but now can't. I am not 100% sure if I'm ovulating every month or at all. I did an OPK this month and got what looked like a peak so I'm hoping I still am. I am conscious of my age though and wary of menopause.

It isn't going to be straightforward of course but you know that. But it isn't impossible either. Personally, I don't think I will keep trying endlessly. I think if I don't get pregnant before my 43rd birthday, I will probably stop.

Check out the ‘pregnant at 46 thread’

I had ds (unplanned) at 45, after losing an ovary & tube to a necrotic cyst ten years earlier.

It came as a bit of a shock DS will be 12 this summer, the best thing I have ever done.

Good luck x

MINTJULIA I love stories like these . Brilliant Just meant to be xx

Oooh 49 is pushing the boat out. I'm 48 now and honestly, I couldn't go through the baby stage again. But I've been a mum since my 20s and that does make a difference. I think if I started at 40, I'd feel differently.
OP I did have DC3 at 42 after 2 MCs and a late in pregnancy loss at 26 weeks. It was a bit of a heartbreaking road to happiness from the age of 39 to 42. But what a joy DC3 is!!! Absolutely wouldn't change a thing, even if he did try to bury me alive during the first 3 years of his life. He took 'non-sleeper' to a whole other level.

The 40s... they don't fuck around! But that doesn't mean it's over... it's just not as straightforward. Don't give up hope, OP. Keep on going. Do you have ovulation kits?

I had my 3rd DD last September at 42. It was a perfect pregnancy sailed through it. I loved it so much we started trying again in the October. I fell pregnant again in December but had a MMC in February. I'm TTC again now, I'm 43 but feeling positive it will I'm ovulating so it's just a matter of time, fingers crossed for you x

The funny thing was, after 40 hr labour producing ds, and being the oldest mum in the hospital, his dad asked me if we should give him a sibling.

If you are still ovulating then you are in with a chance for sure. When people quote stats about it not being likely to be able to have a baby in your early to mid 40s, they are usually based on poor IVF outcomes at that age, but women having IVF are likely to have more fertility problems than age alone. Also don't forget most early to mid 40s women are actively trying not to get pregnant. Good luck. Have you read the book 'it starts with the egg'? The supplement and lifestyle advice in there could be useful for you :)

Thank you for your words of inspiration. I'm not giving up just yet :) I've not heard of that book @CeibaTree so I'll give it a nosey. Thanks xx

Love your story @Mintjulia

This may not be altogether relevant but when I was 32, a GP told me I might struggle to conceive. I set my life up around that information, and accepted it. I got pregnant at 35 from one mistake, and went in to have two more children at 38 and 40. The second did take a while, but the third was also unintended. You've already had a baby so I'd have thought even with miscarriages your odds aren't bad. Use the OPKs, they help with the feeling of powerlessness more than anything.

Just chipping in to say that I had DS3 when I was 42 and definitely wasn't the oldest person in the baby/toddler groups we went to. Took a few months to conceive and one very early loss but got there eventually!

2 cousins (on completely separate, unrelated sides of DH and my families) both had children age 44, without IVF. I already had a 20yr old from her 1st marriage, the other, it was her 1st child!

I'm also 42. TTC 9yrs and had my 3rd loss last weekend. Pregnancy is still possible in 40's, but the chance of MC and chromosomal issues does go up. Best of luck x

Forgot to mention I had my DC2 at age 42 - first month of trying 😊. No problems and pregnancy was far easier than the first at age 37