Conception - first time vs second time

[heretobeanonymous]

Hi all, I'm sure there is many threads about this on MN but I can't seem to find any on my app . Therefore, I'd like to ask you - how long did it take you to conceive your first baby and was there much difference in timing the second time round? We have just decided to start TTC baby #2 this month and I am ovulating today. DD is now 20 months old so it is a perfect age gap for us. We conceived the first month of TTC with DD so I'm just intrigued to find out what the odds are that that could be the case again this time round? Was there much difference in how long it took you to conceive your second baby?

First - 11 months
Second - 3 months

Now trying for number 3, on 2nd month & waiting to see at the moment

I conceived #1 on the second cycle, and just got a BFP with #2 on the third cycle (although we totally stuffed up the timing on the first cycle so technically it was only two cycles of legitimately trying).

Good luck!

It took 11 months to conceive DC1. It took literally one try to conceive DC2 It was a bit of a surprise, to say the least, especially as I was still breastfeeding DC1. There's just 16 months between them. It then took about 4 months to conceive DC3, but there is a bigger age gap.

It’s normal for it to take up to a year to conceive. I think the messages we get told as a child are unhelpful when TTC.

‘Even think about having unprotected sex and you’ll get pregnant!’

For some people, that’s true. For most, it’s not.

It’s more likely to be true for teens and under 25s, though. So it’s a message worth giving them to avoid unwanted pregnancies when very young. However, what should also be explained in school - especially to girls- is that conceiving gets harder as we age (on a population level, of course there are exceptions and outliers and some people have a horribly hard time).

OP DC1 and DC2 were both conceived first cycle (in my twenties) DC3 took almost exactly a year (late thirties). Which probably makes me very average, in terms of fertility declining.

So, age matters, I think and since you’re only 29 months older than last time you conceived, hopefully you’ll be lucky and it will be quick. Good luck.

First time round about 1 year, second time round 3 years

It’s more likely to be true for teens and under 25s, though.

I was 24 when we started TTC DC2. Hardly a geriatric mum and it took over a year.

I think we should be honest with teens. Yes, their fertility is at its peak but that is not a guarantee that they’ll get pregnant just by looking at a condom-free penis. My point is that some of the messages being shared with children are misleading. Preparing people that TTC may take longer than one shag would probably make people understand their bodies more. I certainly understand more about the female body now than I ever learnt at school. I teach sex ed to my class and I am now better able to explain the female reproductive system after TTC.

1st time for DC1 and DC2. Nearly 2 years for DC3. 3 and a bit years between DC2 and DC3 so not sure why the huge difference in ttc.

Hi,

First baby we conceived first month and with one attempt at doing the deed!! Clearly luck was in hand that month!!

Second time round we got pregnant at month 3 of TTC but I lost that baby on New Years Day, so we took Jan/Feb/Mar off as cycle was all over the shop!

April 2020 is take 2 for baby No2!