Post-Miscarriage success stories

[confused233]

Hi guys.
Currently going through a miscarriage. Remained hopeful as I kept having symptoms and positive pregnancy tests after bleeding but an internal scan found today that my uterus is empty so baby definitely came away. I feel deflated, I feel guilty. Did I do something wrong? I've had 2 previous healthy pregnancies so this has shocked me. I feel like I have nothing to look forward to anymore. I don't know when I can conceive again as I clearly still have hcg in my blood. Anybody have some post-miscarriage success stories that can give me some hope?

I was devastated when I had a miscarriage October 2018. But I conceived again in January and am currently say feeding my 7 month old!! My first pregnancy had been absolutely fine so the MC was a shock! But it isn't necessarily the end. Give yourself time to grieve, don't rush into anything but you should definitely also have hope :)

I’m so sorry you are going through this, it’s really tough. I had a mc at 13 weeks following a normal pregnancy. It was a real shock and it floored us. I had it medically managed under a general. I fell pregnant again 6 weeks later which I’ll be honest was far too quick. I was still grieving the loss whilst pregnant which wasn’t the best, head wise. I had a healthy pregnancy and now have a lovely son.

Look after yourself and give yourself the time to grieve x

My other piece of advice is try not to take peoples clumsy attempts at helping to heart. In general, unless you have had a mc yourself, people just don’t know what to say to you. Remember that most people do meanwell, but quite often say (in my experience) some really inappropriate things.

Had a missed miscarriage and then conceived 5 months later, I have an almost 3month old now

My post MC story is now 13 years old.
It's a shocking thing when it happens to you and to be honest, I still feel sad about the pregnancies I had that miscarried.
Be kind to yourself and take some time to grieve and heal.

@confused233 no success story here (yet) but I just went through a MC and didn't want to read and run. Be kind to yourself, and also know it absolutely wasn't your fault. I felt the same, even crying and apologising to my DH when I told him because I felt so responsible, it was my body that did this and I was supposed to be keeping it safe/growing it into a healthy baby. (DH talked me off the guilt ledge and told me I'd done everything right, we're just unlucky this time).

Give yourself permission to sit in this for a bit and feel your feelings. Start TTC again when you feel ready. For me, I'm on the next cycle now and can't believe I have to go back to peeing on OPKs again, but here we are. It took me 5 weeks before AF arrived post-MC, which I feel incredibly lucky about. Know that it's totally normal for it to take longer too, I guess try not to compare yourself too much with others. Hang in there xx

@Bumfuzzled I completely agree with your comment about people saying really inappropriate things. I've found that in general when dealing with loss, people say the most horrendous things when trying to be helpful or comforting

I had two miscarriages when TTC DS. First time I had a period about 6 weeks post d&c for mmc, and then conceived after that period, sadly that was another miscarriage but I fell pregnant with DS the following month, no period in between. I’m really sorry op. I hope your hcg levels go back down really soon and you’re able to continue trying, if that’s what you feel ready for. Be kind to yourself and all the best x

So sorry you're going through this...it's an awful experience!
I had two miscarriages, after the second I got pregnant before I had a period and I now have a beautiful baby boy!!
xx

Thank you so much everyone for your replies. It's a very strange experience to find out you're pregnant and then.. you're not. It's gone. I too felt responsible, wondering if I are the wrong thing or drank a glass of wine when I conceived. I'm very weepy but trying so hard to remember it's unfortunately a common event when TTC x

All your feelings are completely valid, be kind to yourself. When you see that positive test, you can’t help but fast forward 9+ months and imagine what your life might look like. You’re grieving something that was a tiny living thing that you made, and the life you imagined, for however short a time. Yes it’s common but it doesn’t make it easy. Allow these feelings, you will find your way through this x