Anyone else waiting to try because of coronavirus and feeling sad about it?

[LisaSimpsonsbff]

Feeling a bit down, and thought it might help to talk to other people in the same boat. DH and I agreed at around Christmas that, for various reasons, we'd start trying for a second baby in March. DS is 22 months and it took us nearly two years and three miscarriages to have him, so I've always had at the back of my mind that having a second might be hard/not ever happen for us. By the time March came the situation had changed completely with coronavirus, and we agreed we'd wait until at least the summer to see what the situation was like then. I think that's a logical decision given all the uncertainty and the reduced health services at the moment, but I'm finding it so hard and upsetting. I know I ovulated a couple of days ago and I keep thinking that I'm giving up chances that might not come again

Just go for it. Covid-19 is going to be around a long time, the U.K. will have to “re-open” soon enough. Life can’t be put on hold forever. That’s just my opinion anyway.

Do it when you feel is best for you, if you feel ready now then go for it!
No-one knows how long all this is going to go on for, however even if you do get pregnant straight away you’re talking about 9months down the line before they come along, surely there has to be some improvement by then?

OP just go for it! We started properly in March. You can't put your life on hold for it. Plus, who is to say you would fall pregnant instantly anyway... Personally, i would go for it! Good luck xx

I’m just cracking on - in fact this whole thing brought out plans forward - plan was to start trying after the summer (we were going to all the music festivals) they got cancelled! Then we thought life is too short and we thought we could plan Everything out - then plans all got changed just like that - made me realise life is too short!

We considered pausing because of CV, but in the end decided to just go for it. Chances are the situation may be more manageable in 9 month's time and there will be better processes in place for hospital labours etc.

We've decided to see it as a positive either way:

• A) No BFP = ah, just as well considering the virus
• B) BFP = Yay - baby!

We briefly considered waiting, we also planned to start in March. We quickly decided that this whole COVID-19 situation is not going anywhere any time soon, especially social distancing which I believe will be in place for at least another 6 months. I didn't want to wait that long, I have waited 12 months to get to this point for personal reasons and I was eager to get started, OH was reluctant at first but quickly came around to the idea as he is excited to start too. I think there's always going to be a 'reason' to delay (although I understand this is a very valid reason) and you can always say it's not a perfect time, but the perfect time is really when you feel you want to.

@CaribouCarafe Oh I like that attitude of BFN considering virus! That will definitely help my disappointments if and when they come.

Thanks for the comments, all - I wasn't really expecting this unanimous vote to go for it, it's really interestingly difference to what I've seen elsewhere on MN - lots of vitriol about how 'stupid' it would be to TTC now. The thing that particularly worries me is having another miscarriage (not statistically unlikely given my history, sadly) and not being able to get the normal care for this - I've seen stories of people being told no scans for bleeding, etc. I do agree that we can't put our lives on hold forever, though. DH is much more strongly in favour of going ahead now - he's worried that if #2 never happens we'll regret not trying now.

@LisaSimpsonsbff Aside from the concerns regarding limited health care I am actually really enjoying TTC in the 'lockdown' state we are in. My OH is still going out to work and I am working from home but I think it gives us something positive to focus on, and even it takes many, many months for us it's nice to have an end goal and focus to get us through the uncertainty of everything else.

We didn’t stop and I have just got my BFP. I’m looking at it in a really positive way, I’ll be WFH for the first trimester, work stress is less, if my symptoms are bad I can take a nap, throw up in peace. I don’t have all my friends asking me why I’m not drinking at every social event and overall I think my stress will be a lot lower. I had a MMC in December so so far, I’m feeling a lot better.
And if I need support from the EPU I will be assertive enough to get it . Go for it!!

We are still trying, we wouldn't consider stopping now, especially after trying 2.5 years. It's more time home and a lot less stress, so I really hope it will help us to conceive.
And in a years time it will probably be more than likely over, so we gonna be over moon if we get bfp in the meantime.
If you want baby, do it and don't let anybodys opinion to stop you.

We have also decided to postpone ttc.
We had a holiday booked for March which was meant to be our last couple holiday before starting a family.
We have rebooked for November so fingers crossed that will go ahead and we can start trying again.
We also felt that at the moment there's so much going on to be stressing about a pregnancy as well.
I do feel deflated as we have been trying since before Christmas but I am just counting down the weeks to hopefully our holiday and baby making!