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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Trying but not trying to concieve downer

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NatJayne87 · 22/04/2020 10:30

So 3 months ago we decided to come off contraception but not activity TTC, im very aware of my cycles and how they work so i can pin point the exact day of ovulation so ive been able to see that we have had sex in my fertile window, not ovulation day yet and i havent concieved yet. Unfortunately im on a bit of a downer at the moment, my partner has a son and he will be staying over this evening, hes 21 months and still sleeping the the bedroom (this will change as we are moving to a place he can have his own bedroom). Anyway, we dont have sex when he is here, which is fine, but today is ovulation day so i now know that it will be another month where i wont have the potential to concieve and this gets me down. I so desperately want to be pregnant. My partner says it will happen when it happens but he doesnt get it or what its like knowing that potential for that month has passed and how much of a bummer it is knowing your wont be pregnant this month. Please send some positive vibes 😊 TIA

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HyggeTygge · 22/04/2020 10:38

If you're coming off contraception and having sex then you are actively ttc.

HyggeTygge · 22/04/2020 10:39

You need to be on the same side about whether you both want to raise a child (not just "be pregnant") . Sort this out properly and honestly first before you get pregnant. You will be in a nightmare otherwise!

MsFrog · 22/04/2020 11:15

I think the PP has missed the point of your post, OP. I totally get this, when you are more invested in/aware of the process of TTC than your partner. I see the difference between "trying" and being aware, as well; it's a blurry line, esp for the woman. If you're aware of the days you are fertile, it's hard not to think "well, we need to have sex now or it won't happen".

I think this discrepancy is really common, as well, I've seen lots of posts along the lines of "DH much more relaxed about it all", and I've been there myself as well.

Don't feel too down - have you had sex in the last few days. It does need to be O day for you to fall pregnant, it's good if the sperm are there ready to meet the egg! 🤞

MsFrog · 22/04/2020 11:16

*doesn't need to be O day!!

pjani · 22/04/2020 11:22

You’ve got all five days before ovulation, use them wisely! I believe the days just before are better than the day of.

You’re definitely TTC btw 🤓

pjani · 22/04/2020 11:23

Oh and also... sex in the bathroom while he naps? Good luck!

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NatJayne87 · 22/04/2020 12:38

Thank you all. We havent had sex at all in this fertile window so this ones out, maybe the next one will be a success! Thanks for your replies :-)

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