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TTC feeling lonely... Anyone else?

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Bax85 · 17/04/2020 19:56

New to this, so bear with me...

Currently TTC baby number 1... 5 cycles in and AF came today. Anyone else feel like they are so alone? No one else I know has experienced any difficulty getting pregnant, in fact loads of friends have got pregnant/have had babies recently and I know that all of them have got pregnant within the first month or two of trying...
I'm only 26, and me and my partner are fit and healthy, so I guess I just presumed we would get pregnant pretty fast!
Does help that I work as a midwife, so literally see bumps and babies all day every day...
Also, I know it's normal for it to take time, just so frustrating when I (naively) thought there would be no problems... Confused

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avsnash · 17/04/2020 20:02

Hello @bax85!

I am the same, although I am new to this journey only on month one, feeling totally overwhelmed with everything I need to do and remember.
Who would of thought it was was difficult! I thought if I missed one pill I would get pregnant when I was younger!
I'm 28 and this will be our first baby.
I think I'm scared that I won't be able to conceive Sad

curlyhairdiva · 17/04/2020 20:03

Wow it could have been me that wrote that! I am also 26, on cycle 5 trying to conceive my first! I too feel so alone sometimes. I am trying to be positive and remind myself that the average couple take around 6 months to conceive but any time up to a year is also fine for our age group. So I'm pretty sure it will happen for us when the time is right ☺️

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Bax85 · 17/04/2020 20:23

Thanks guys! It's so nice to know that it's not just me!
It's so difficult when you've got no one to talk to, no one knows we are TTC...
I had some weird symptoms this week, and was 2 days late on my period, so of course I got my hopes up - bit of a kick in the butt when lovely AF arrived today 😬

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avsnash · 17/04/2020 20:46

@bax85
How are you dealing with the disappointment 😔 I have taken another ovulation test and I am still low, according to apps I am supposed to on be in my window.
I can't even cope with the look of disappointment on my fiancé's face when I tell him it's low, hurts me so much but I feel like I cant say anything as he's obviously excited.
So much pressure Sad

introv3rt · 17/04/2020 23:23

Hey :) I've been trying since October, (came off the pill then) I know how you feel! I'm 26 too :) trying for our first baby.
The first few months I was really obsessed with it all but after 4 cycles of disappointment Im trying to be abit more calm...

Naera95 · 18/04/2020 03:34

Hey ladies. I’m 24 and I have been TTC for 10 months now. Currently 7dpo and having no symptoms so feeling down about it already. I feel the same as you feeling very alone and everyone around me is getting pregnant straight away.

Ashworth90 · 18/04/2020 07:43

Hi lovelies! I feel the same... everyone in my family conceived on first try. I’ve just turned 30 and hubby is 35 and we are ttc baby #1 and currently 4dpo on cycle #3. It’s hard to talk to people about ttc when they didn’t go beyond the first month trying. Fingers crossed for us all!

Positevibes · 18/04/2020 15:08

Hey everyone I'm 33 on cycle 8 TTC #1. I've only started tracking properly since Feb using the clue app which I'm finding helpful. Trying to stay positive after 2 chemical pregnancies. It would be nice to have some like minded people to talk too - I know people mean well but if one more person says just relax it will happen when the time is right I may lose my mind 😂 Good luck to you all. 🍀 Maybe May is the month that will bring some good news x

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Bax85 · 19/04/2020 21:53

Hey ladies! Thanks for all your lovely replies, sorry I haven't been back on here - it's been a crazy few days!
I chatted with my other half the other day, and he's being so amazing and supportive - he's obviously disappointed as well but I don't think it hits home for them as much... It's different for him as he hadn't been ready to try until December... Whereas I had been wanting to start trying for a year beforehand! So it feels like I've been waiting to conceive for a lot longer!

How are your other halves feeling about all of this? Do they get sad with every unsuccessful cycle?

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Naera95 · 19/04/2020 22:17

@Bax85 it doesn’t seem to affect my husband as much. When I tell him he just says oh well babe it will happen when it’s meant to happen. But I get so up Set and cry the first day of my period. I think after 10 months now he is starting to get disheartened but doesn’t want to show me. But glad I have you ladies to talk to now 😊

Positevibes · 20/04/2020 14:17

@Bax85 @Naera95 my other half is the same he's so calm about it all. He just says it will happen when it's meant to. I'm not sure if he really thinks that or whether he's just trying to keep me positive because I've been feeling a bit down about it lately. I guess he's right but don't tell him I said that 😂.

Noble89 · 20/04/2020 14:48

Hi Ladies,

I hope you don't mind me joining. I'm 30 and TTC baby number one. I started trying in June last year and got a BFP in August so was lucky to conceive quite quickly. Unfortunately my 12 week scan showed the baby had died at week 7. I was later diagnosed as having had a partial molar pregnancy which is super rare and unfortunately can become cancerous so you have to go through a period of monitoring by specialists and during that time you can't try again. I've finally been told I'm free to try again but I'd missed my fertile window last month by the time they gave me the green light. I came on my period yesterday so this is cycle one for me.

Wishing you all luck xxx

Positevibes · 20/04/2020 15:54

@Noble89 sorry you've gone through such a tough time. Good luck for you in the future 🤞🏼 I'm sure we'll all get our positives sometime soon but it's nice to have like minded people to talk too while we wait 🌈🍀

avsnash · 26/04/2020 20:22

@noble89

So sorry for what you have gone through 😔 fingers crossed for you now ♥️

@bax85
My other half is a very emotional person so it's so hard to hide our disappointment from each other.
In other news I am on day 6 of 'high' LH still no peak, anyone else had this? My ap says I passed my ovulation by 7 days and to take my test on 4th May? But should I delay taking the test? So confusing!
Xx

Naera95 · 27/04/2020 01:31

How’s everyone getting on. I unfortunately got my period this morning and had a huge cry. Starting to just feel really overwhelmed now coming up to a year soon x

avsnash · 27/04/2020 07:22

@naera95
Keep your chin up lovely and remember to not stress about it, I know it's hard!
A lot of my friends who have got pregnant say they fell pregnant as soon as they chilled out about the whole thing 😊 just take a deep breath and power on! remember your stress hormones affect it ♥️ x

Herjbr26 · 27/04/2020 07:35

Hi I’m ttc aswell I feel really alone aswell 😭 I wish I could have a period 😢💔I was wondering and looking for advice I started the pill about July 2018 - April/may 2019 I have had the first “fake period” that u get when u finish the pill then I went a while without the had one in June my prom. then I spotted in August and September I think and November I had brown discharge for 2/3 days then I had the same discharge 21-24th April but the first day it was pink then got a little red in it then went brown when I checked my knickers and have had nothing since then, is this normal? and any advice how to regulate/get my period back? I’m not pregnant as I took a test I just don’t fancy going to the doctor I have bad anxiety and don’t want to be getting needles and tested unless I really need to ! I was just seeing if you know anything to bring it back? Before I do end up having to book an appointment many thanks.

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