Advice for a struggling mum

[Leslie33]

Hi everyone.i have taken 3 pregnancy tests between yesterday and today all negative but i feel like im pregnant.sore boobs, sore head and i have had cramping since sunday. Its day 28 of my cycle today .my last 2 cycles have been 26 days but my 2 cycles previous to that were 30. Im peetty sure today is 14 days post ovulations. No period yet amd im so confused because i was convinced i was pregnant. Iv been gutted all day. I think stress has made my cycles all mucked up as we lost our youngest daughter in novemeber . She was 19months and perfectly well when we put her to bed and she just didnt wake up. Iv basically put all my hopes on coping with this grief on getting pregnant again and its not happened so far, i think im just looking to have people to talk to about this and i dont want to share with family and friends that we are trying to get pregnant again. I think the tests say it all and i shouldget my period tomorrow or the next. Does anyone have any tips to help with how stressful this all is?
Sorry to unload all of this.

Hi there,

I didn't want to read and run, but I just wanted to come here and say how utterly brave you are for seeking advice and sharing something so personal and heartbreaking. I have an 11 month old myself and am almost in tears reading your post - I can't even begin to imagine how you must be feeling.
All I can say is that as awful as it may seem right now, things will get better. You've managed to conceive once, which is proof that you can conceive, it's just a matter of time. Nobody can tell you whether you are pregnant right now or not, the only thing you can do is give it time and it you will get your answer. And if it's not your turn this month, just keep trying and stay positive and try to busy yourself with other things so you can be as calm and stress-free as possible and give yourself the best chance of conceiving.
We are also currently trying to conceive again so trust me when I say, I understand how all consuming it can be.
All you can do is wait, keep testing until your period shows up (which of course, hopefully it won't) but remember that if you're not pregnant this month, there's always next month.
Best wishes to you and I hope you get your positive test soon!

Hello OP,
My most heartfelt condolences. I cannot imagine how you feel or how you are putting one foot in front of the other. You are amazing for being as strong as you are. I cannot fault you for needing something to aim for and focus on, but TTC can be stressful enough without such a traumatic history. It could be that you are testing too early, perhaps you ovulated and implanted later, or perhaps the stress of the current pandemic and your own experiences are muddling your cycles a bit. I wish all the best for you and a positive outcome, if not this time then in the near future.
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