Second miscarriage

[Lov3my2]

Hi. I did add this on general chat but didn't get much of a response. I'm new to this site so bare with me.

I have 2 boys. With my previous relationship.

Me and my current partner decided last year we would try for a baby of our own. He has a daughter from his previous relationship.

So last year I fell pregnant in June. However had a missed miscarriage which an 8 week scan picked up. Miscarried in August 19

I fell pregnant this March and went for a 6 week scan 2 weeks ago. Couldn't see a heartbeat so went back this morning at 8 weeks and the same has happened again, no heartbeat or progression. The last time I bled naturally at 9 weeks. This time I'm going back tomorrow for some medical management to get things going.

I feel so defeated and low. I'm still in shock I've had 2 miscarriages in a row. This one took me 7 months to conceive after my last loss. I just don't know what I've done so wrong. I'm in utter shock and just after some support.

I am so sorry for what has happened to you. You will not have done anything wrong. I had a late miscarriage and it was recommended a post mortem should take place along with other blood tests etc. Nothing was found to have caused the miscarriage. I found this very hard to accept, I wanted a reason. I went on to have anuther baby but the joy of pregnancy was gone. ( This was along time ago). Stay positive ❣️. Easier said than done I know. Make time to grieve for your loss. Take care.

Sorry you are going through this. I've lost 2 pregnancies, and have no children. TTC 9yrs all up, but currently 6 weeks with the 3rd pregnancy, so nervous times!

I needed medical management with my 1st pregnancy and loss. I wish I'd known the following:

• After the tablets are inserted (usually vaginally) try to stay in bed as long as possible. (urinate beforehand)
• Put a large pad on. I found walking around helped speed things along and helped with pain
• You may pass white, gritty, pasty bits which are the tablets. You might even pass a whole tablet. Don't worry, it will still work.
• I got nausea, vomiting, diarrhoea and a high fever. My face went beetroot red! These are 'normal' side effects and not an allergic reaction. They do pass, but feels pretty grim at the time.
• Ask for pain killers and/or anti-nausea meds early on if you need them
• I was 11 weeks, but wasn't expecting my waters to break and go through my PJ's, bedding and floor! Naively, it never occurred to me that it happens so early- hence get the largest pad you have, or ask the staff for one. Hours after I'd passed everything, they offered me what looked like an adult nappy. I wish I'd been given this earlier though, or known to ask.
• It was painful, but not as bad as I was expecting. I only had 2 paracetamol the whole time, and anti-nausea meds. Being earlier in your pregnancy, and already having 2 children, will likely help with your pain.

Sorry this has got really long! Remember that this isn't your fault. Feel free to ask anything. You might find the following link helpful too. Best of luck tomorrow

www.miscarriageassociation.org.uk/