Coil removal

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Before life as we knew it ended, DH and I were talking about trying for baby no2 this year and I was planning on getting my coil removed in the next month or so.

Am I a complete twat if I try and book an appointment with a nurse to have my coil removed when hundreds of people are dying every day?

Would I even be able to get such an appointment at the moment?

@Soontobe60 Your previous post didn't mention financial stability, you were talking about the impact on the NHS. You have no idea about anyone else's financial circumstances, and the impact on the NHS will be felt for quite some time. If we have to wait until the NHSis back to normal, that could mean leaving it too late for some people who are no longer spring chickens.

JUST FOR CLARITY THIS IS THE CONCEPTION BOARD! Can the smug and judgey with their families complete please move along!

OP no, they won’t do it. I am due my smear test and they won’t do that either unfortunately. My advice is you get busy with the folic acid, eating and drinking well etc. So you are good to go when the lockdown is over

For the record l have been TTC for a couple of years, just turned 40 and not getting anywhere. We will continue to try and it’s our choice to do that

@peperethecat thinking of you, l know it’s tough x

Thank you x

(I really will stop hijacking this thread now!)

JUST FOR CLARITY THIS IS THE CONCEPTION BOARD! Can the smug and judgey with their families complete please move along!

For clarity, it came up in active threads and the title was about coil removal. For addictions clarity you do not have to shout. I have apologised for being insensitive. I was not being intentionally judgy. It's very easy to be practical when you are on the outside.

@perniciousdot there had been a spate of people hijacking conception and infertility threads, talking about how they hard it is with 3 children etc. Not especially helpful or respectful

Your previous post didn't mention financial stability

Not specifically, but I did mention the downturn in the Economy.
JUST FOR CLARITY THIS IS THE CONCEPTION BOARD! Can the smug and judgey with their families complete please move along!

I dont believe anyone is being smug. I for one think that this whole situation with Covid has floored many more groups people than you'd think. From people who’ve had ops cancelled, to people about to buy houses that have now fallen through, to people who have had their plans to have families shattered. No one wishes those things on anyone. I don’t feel smug because I’m not in one of those groups, I want things to return to some semblance of normality so that those groups get what they need. And I feel sad because realistically some people won’t. But I don’t feel smug.

So why comment? I think most people who are or were TTC at the moment have given this some thought and decided to either put things on pause (if they're not in a massive hurry or very worried about their finances) or carry on (if they're more concerned about their fertility) according to their own circumstances.

I can't speak for everyone on here but from the point of view of someone who has weighed it all up and decided to carry on, these comments about it being stupid to TTC now only increase my already sky-high anxiety.

Everyone who's commenting saying she should wait until all of this has blown over - she didn't ask for your opinion on whether she should start TTC. She asked whether we think she would be able to. Honestly, the amount of people on here on insist on ramming their unwanted negative opinions down people's throats is just astonishing. Leave the poor girl alone and let her make her own decisions based on what's right for HER FAMILY. It doesn't affect you.

@Soontobe60 the problem is others have, being judgey about others TTC plans while having 3 children of their own. Which is a fortunate position to be in but often not the situation people on the conception board are in

Please don't try to remove your own coil, it's so dangerous! I understand wanting to TTC but for the sake of a short wait let a professional do it.

OP I doubt you'll get an appointment to have a coil removed at the moment, pretty much all but emergency cases have been stopped. You might be able to have it done privately if you can find somewhere willing to and you can pay... even that's a long shot.

@laura214 I had my coil in for three years and only had 2-3 periods during that time. I haven't had a period since it was removed a few weeks ago and like you, I'm not sure when this is going to come!!

On a separate note, this is my first day on Mumsnet. I joined earlier to talk to people about a mutual topic. I have struggled with people who feel the need to comment about other's personal decision to start a family. As discussed earlier in this post, everybody's circumstances are very different and please respect what people decide is right for them.

Thankyou. For the record I would never attempt to remove it. Jesus, that's crazy eh!

Hi Laura, this is reassuring to hear. We are financially stable in that we can add to our clan and I appreciate your non judgemental converse . Thankyou. We know this will be over soon, and we also know people have been having children long before covid. I live in hope that in the near future we can be in a more positive situation for children... however, if I was to fall pregnant tomorrow (by suprise), inwouldnt be complaining. However, due to this damn coil we cant and that annoys me as if we were contraception free and 'fell pregnant' we would still get support, even if it was extremely minimal as we, as a human race, have been having little people for a loooooong time

@Whit1984 sounds crazy but a friend of mine removed hers a few weeks ago!! Combination of hating the side effects and less need to bother now -her boyfriend had a vasectomy

@whit984 we were the same, it was making me anxious having something inside me that I wasn't in control of or able to remove. Try BMI if you can, there were a few private hospitals still open 2 weeks ago, it may be different locally for you and the phone team were very helpful. Might not be open but definitely worth a try.

For people worried about having to wait to conceive after it's removed, I had one for 9 years, periods back to normal immediately.

Thanks to everyone who's replied peperethecat * thank you for your comments about how long should we wait. The not knowing how long this will go on for is one of the main things that worries me surrounding extending our family.

The decision as to whether to have another baby is one that my husband and I have discussed at great length, and although this decision has been taken out of our hands at the moment, as a PP pointed out, I didn't ask whether I should, my question was specifically about having the couple removed.

We are financially stable and neither of our incomes will likely be effected by covid lock downs as we are both key workers.

I have no intention of trying to remove the coil myself. Luckily I'm planning ahead and within the realms of daft concepts (that we think we have control over) such as age gaps, I don't mind if we don't conceive until later on this year.

I was mearly asking because if this wasn't happening, I would probably be TTC within the next month or so.

The feeling of support has overwhelmed the negative 💐