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[MrsCOR]

Hi everyone!

Cycle 5 of ttc baby #1.

Currently 11dpo and 3 days away from AF.

So far I have absolutely no symptoms which is not normal for me compared to the last 4 cycles.

However, had a BFN this morning so feeling disheartened.

Anybody testing in the next few days? I'm trying to hold off until 15th April.

Also attached my chart this month if anyone wants to comment?

@serialplanner I know! Was quite surprised by it! But then I suppose they tell you to wait until a missed period to test probably for that reason. I really hope this is our month 🤞

I'm out AF arrived and a day late just to keep me in suspense @MrsCOR good luck to you it all sounds positive 🤞

@Juno231- you think so? I'm trying to be positive but I really think AF will turn up!

@Positevibes - aw so gutted for you that AF came. I'm getting more cramps today so think AF will just be a day late. Hasn't actually turned up yet though! My temps are just up and down at the moment so I'm on the edge of my seat anticipating seeing a massive drop.

I'm super moody today and it makes me more moody because that means AF. I know it's the first time so I just need to calm down but it's hard not to get your hopes up. I really thought I would be more chill than this.

@serialplanner - honestly I was exactly the same about trying to be cool about it all. Is this the first month ttc for you?

If you like to plan things and be in control, I would recommend reading "The Impatient Woman's Guide to Getting Pregnant". I really enjoyed reading it and found it very helpful for my mindset and chilling out about the whole ttc thing.

On another note... absolutely no pink CM since 2 days ago now, very mild cramping so keep thinking AF is going to come but nothing so far! I don't know why but it just feels different and not like my normal cramps. Tomorrow will be a day late but might not test just yet. I don't want to see a bfn again and it's only 1 day late.

@MrsCOR first time ever - I know it's silly. I've just had a bad day at work too. Thanks for your encouragement. Might give me something to read other than symptoms lol

Oh FX - the longer you came wait the better (from Mrs impatient!)

@serialplanner honestly I really get those first time feelings because I was so hopeful that it would happen with just the mention of no contraception.

We are taught not to have sex without protection because you will get pregnant (and die lol) so we avoid it thinking it's so easy to get pregnant when in reality it really isn't.

I have have everything crossed!!!! 🤞🤞🤞🤞

@MrsCOR morning woken up with a more realiy attitude!

Yes isn't that so weird we are literally brainwashed that unprotected sex = pregnancy

I know it's easy to go too far but imagine you didn't have Google or didn't look this stuff up.

Anywho, another day and trying to remember all of those less fortunate than me so will stop the moans today!

I hope you all have wonderful days xx

@serialplanner good morning! I woke up feeling sick but probably from nerves.

No AF overnight but maybe today. Temperature stayed high again though so not sure.

Just took a test and can see the faintest line... not sure what to think as it is barely visible and I can't get it in a photo.

To be honest I think it is just another BFN for me. I imagine AF will show her face today.

@MrsCOR oh I really hope not! Keep us posted x

Had a look at my previous cycles and I have mainly 26/27 day cycles... I have had longer (even 29 days) however the luteal phase has always been exactly 14 days. I know I ovulated 15 days ago, so its unusual for af to be late for me. Clutching at straws but I'll do anything to keep that positive mindset!

@MrsCOR enjoy the positivity and roll with it!

BFN again and temp drop. Definitely think I am out now so not even going to bother testing again. Onto the next cycle

Oh no @MrsCOR is today 3 days late? It's so difficult because our cycles could affected by the stress of what is going on!

@serialplanner maybe.. AF was due on 15th and she arrived this morning. Gutted 😔

Onto cycle 6 now and stepping away from OPKs and BBT... I know my body is doing what it is supposed to so I need to relax and let it happen. Clearly trying so hard to get pregnant is not working!

@MrsCOR I'm so sorry! I know it sucks. At least you have some immediate clarity.

Yes, just have lots of sex during your window and enjoy that bit!

Timing is everything and at the right time you will have the right pregnancy. I really believe that.

@serialplanner it's okay I have been feeling better throughout the day and DH has actually been very supportive today. I think it is starting to take its toll on him too. 😔 Feel like I am letting him down every time.

I really believe that too! Almost like fate. And when I do get pregnant I wouldn't be able to imagine having any other baby. It will happen when everything lines up! It just hasn't done that yet and that's okay. Every month is only a 15-20% chance and sometimes you can just be unlucky.

How are you doing anyway?

@MrsCOR of course you are not letting him down! Don't be silly!

I'm 9dpo today. Tempted to test but I have only one test so trying to be good and wait.

I had crazy back cramps yesterday and I usually only get stomach cramps once AF has started. Who knows if it is all in my head or a bit different.

Bit silly but does such a thing as a pregnancy test ritual exist? I couldn't imagine doing one without DH but I'm in the early days and soppy!

@serialplanner - thank you for your kind words, it really means a lot 🥰

Oooo I would hold off as much as you can. If there's anything I have learnt in the past 5 cycles it's to not test unless you are late. Otherwise you're peeing money down the drain (excuse the pun lol). Also 9dpo is usually when you implant so leave it at least 3/4 days if you can!

I know its difficult because you want to know ASAP but I am now going to start waiting until that missed period.

I had back, hip and leg aches and thought that was a new sign but turns out although it's not a regular thing I can't use new symptoms to identify pregnancy. So hard to not symptom spot though!!! How on earth am I going to get through that tww without thinking "Am I pregnant?"?!?! 😂

I always take a test then take it to DH so he doesn't have to watch me dip sticks into a hot cup of urine (attractive, right?! 😂😂)

@MrsCOR yes I suppose if I get through the weekend, the week goes quick as still working full days albeit at home.

This definitely the most emotional thing I have been through. Maybe the only thing that compares is when you are young and deciding about your virginity! Unknown and about your body.

This is worse though as it's ongoing. Interesting what you said about implantation. I'm going to look I to the science side. Learning so much more than biology class

@serialplanner yep definitely very emotional - I think more so than losing your virginity because of the fact that it is ongoing!

I've done so much research behind it because I like to understand everything and not go in blind!

AF officially came today so hello May it is! I was 11dpo and resisted testing which I will try and keep up as as a habit as AF is less disappointing for me as it kicks off a new month!

@serialplanner - gutted AF came for you in the end! Totally agree, getting AF is far less disappointing than a bfn and I will not be testing until a missed period now. I am due to finish tomorrow so getting excited to start a new cycle! Had a nice relaxing bath with candles & music tonight - I would recommend it whilst af is here!

@MrsCOR aww good luck! Maybe May will be our month!