How to STOP ttc...

[Beau20]

TTC has totally taken over the last 8 months of my life to the point where it's beginning to put a strain on my relationship. Plus the added bonus of corona right now I want to somehow stop actively TTC.

Anyone have any tips on taking your mind off checking CM, trying to not subconsciously still time sex around your predicted FW? I ditched the OPKs and vitamins this month (except folic acid) but I still find myself obsessing over symptoms and everything else. It's so so difficult to ignore the symptoms you've been tracking for the last 9 cycles... but we just need some breathing space and time out from the whole thing. I don't want to go back on BC as it's the reason we are taking so long to conceive in the first place.

Any tips would be welcomed x

💐 It really can get so disheartening 💗

My advice is to try to have sex every other day between CD10 and 20. Ignore everything else.

How old are you? That will determine how long you should continue for xxx

@Beau20 I’ve been wondering the same thing. So fed up now but I just can’t stop because it’s become almost an addiction; the sticks, the checking, timing sex etc. I’m
Gonna try my hardest to not try pinpoint ovulation this month ( I know all the signs anyway don’t need to wee on a stick!!) and just hope for the best. It’s so hard!

If you work out the answer to this please let me know. People keep saying it will happen when you stop trying, genuinely no idea how I do that

@FlashesOfRage I'm 28 so not exactly 'old' but I've had 2 very quick shock pregnancies before and when it comes to REALLY wanting one, it doesn't happen. You are totally right about sex every other day. The problem with us now is that we've totally gone off it because it stopped being fun! Like it only has one purpose. We always used to be at least 5 times a week now we're lucky if it's one 😂🙈

@Willow146 you are right, it's an addiction! I never thought trying for a baby would be so stressful and shit... it's all I think about and I have planned so many things over the last 12 months planning of being pregnant and I'm not even close

@Trying93 you're not wrong... I can't even force myself to stop trying!

Lol! I know that feeling where neither of you can be bothered anymore 😂

If you try to do it on days 10, 12, 14, 16 and 20 that’s just five times and you can do things whatever way you fancy the rest of your cycle. If you have taken away all other stressors like opks, temping etc then it is as minimalist as you can get while still actually being in with a shot lol x

You’ve got about an 87% chance of getting pregnant within your first year at your age so if you get to the 1 year mark it would be a good idea to see your GP for preliminary investigations xx

I know what you mean. I’m not TTC now (I’m really, really not ) but back when I was trying for DC2, DH and I agreed to take a casual approach but it was impossible. I became such a TTC pro when I was trying to get up the duff with DC2, I didn’t need a thermometer or OPKs or an app to tell me when I was ovulating. So then either having sex or not having sex around that time was always a conscious decision so basically I was always actively TtC

@FlashesOfRage I've already had some bloods run as I've had a chemical and my luteal phase is extremely short along with really short light periods also. I have low progesterone but GP won't do anything about it until the 1 year mark...

I'm a lot more relaxed than I was, relaxed as in I'm no longer disappointed every month when AF comes as I know I won't get pregnant. But I just want to chill on every other part but it's so so hard!!! And I want to just carry on with my life as if we weren't even trying.

Best advice I got was to enjoy it. Have sex when you're in the mood. Eat & drink what you want. Leave the dates, ovulation and pregnancy tests in the cupboard. Forget why you're doing it and just enjoy it. I fell pregnant 2.5 months after stopping the pill so really lucky but I was so stressed from prior planning & taking bloody pregnancy tests constantly. Just chill

@Beau20 Ahh I’m so sorry you went through that already 💐 Wishing you every success in the near future x