Month 21...better luck next time

[hayho87]

I always said when I started this journey of ttc, that I wouldn't get stressed. I didn't however think 21 cycles later we would still be trying. I say trying loosely as we haven't been preventing anything but not been at it like rabbits either! Just keeping things natural and organic. But now I'm starting to think maybe we should put a bit more effort into it. My cycles average 41 days, some are longer and some are a normal length. Theres no real patter to it and I'm getting slightly concerned something might be wrong. I'm 33 this year and hubs is 38 now. Everyone told us just chill and it will happen...we did that...nothings happened.

I guess I'm after some advice? Anyone else going through the same thing? Or been through it? What finally got you pregnant? Did you do anything different? Are we at the point that when all this covid rubbish is over with I should be going to the doc with my concerns?

Feeling very defeated today ☹️

Hey don't worry - it just takes longer for some than others! It wouldn't hurt to get the ball going with the GP after this is over though, as the process can be long anyway and it sounds like you could potentially have PCOS or something along those lines?

I would suggest however that you start tracking your ovulation and time intercourse to it, as letting nature have its course can very easily mean you're missing your fertile slot every time. Bear in mind even if you time everything perfectly there's still only like a 30% chance of conceiving, never mind if you don't time it perfectly! So get your OPKs or BBT set up and try and DTD as often as you can during FW, at least every two days.

If you have irregular cycles then this would exarcebate the situation as well as your ovulation will be all over the place.

Hang in there, you'll get your baby eventually!

@Juno231 thanks for you reply! I had tests for pcos about 13 years ago (previous relationship) it came back negative. I wonder if it's something that develops? Id need to look into that. I know roughly when my ovulation day is based on my cervical fluid, but I do have a clear blue advanced kit, I'll try that this month and see if that helps xx

@hayho87 two years worth of 26-29 day cycles. I'm now freshly pregnant. Naturally. Right after we had ivf consultation and this was our last time trying, we weren't even going to but decided anyway. Don't give up. If you had all the necessary tests done and nothing is wrong, there's a chance for sure.

Thank you @KatBeCool and congratulations, I've always been quite relaxed about getting my period every month, only twice have I had a little melt down but I guess with the 2 year mark looming soon it's just becoming a bit more real now with how long it's taking, it's lovely to hear stories like yours where you've finally got there naturally, wishing you every bit of luck 🥰 xx