TTC - Finding it tough

[Positevibes]

So I'm probably going to sound like a drama queen but we have been trying for 7 months without success (I realise for some people it's much worse). I had a chemical pregnancy in Feb and the range of emotions you go through in such a short space of time is unbelievable. I'm so frustrated I think I'm quite impatient anyway. I've started using a tracking app and taking folic acid but was wondering if anyone has any other hints or tips? We haven't told anyone we're trying and I feel like I'm losing my mind not having anyone to talk to. My partner is so calm and relaxed and just says it will happen but I'm driving my self crazy trying not to pee on loads of expensive sticks that are usually a let down. Thanks for reading 😊

Hiya! Sorry about your chemical pregnancy, that must have been a rotten time for you. This is our 7th month of trying too, been taking a multi vitamin with folic acid and partner has been taking a multi vitamin with coq10. I’m also very impatient and haven’t told anyone (except partners immediate family) so I feel your pain! I’m trying really, reeeeealy hard not to stress this month but it’s so hard! Not using OPK’s at the moment as I find they just add to the stress. No advice but I know how you feel! fingers crossed you get your bfp soon 🤞

Have you tried the clear blue ovulation sticks? They worked for me after a few months of trying x

@RobinRose thank you it's nice to talk to other people going through the same thing. Good luck to you 😊🤞

@Thekindyoufindinasecondhand not yet but maybe that's a good idea to see if the app is accurate.

I should add I'm 33 and my partner is 31 and it will be the first for both of us x

Hi, sorry you’re having such a rough time especially with the chemical . My tip is don’t track, don’t just have sex when you’re ‘most fertile’, have sex every 2-3 days, because you can actually ovulate later or earlier than you think. OPK’s can be stressful. Makes it all much harder. Also my husband took multi vitamins , I took the pregnecare and folic acid (I need a higher dose of folic acid prescribed as I’m on epilepsy meds) and I think it was pregnecare man that my husband took. We got pregnant when we didn’t track. I know it’s tough and 7 months is a long time and must feel harder each month but , for people without fertility issues and who have been trying less than a year , sometimes they’re tracking and apps can be wrong , and like I say ovulation can actually can vary. Good luck 💕☘️

@GaaaaarlicBread thank you that makes a lot of sense when I look at all the dots on my app sometimes it gets me down more so maybe taking a break from tracking will help 🙂

Have you read about eating pineapple core (bromelain)? it's the only thing I changed the month I fell pregnant.

Easy to do too. Plenty of info on google if you're interested.

Hey just to add that folic acid is for foetal development and not for conceiving so make sure you carry on taking it. I'd recommend using OPKs as your app could possibly be missing your ovulation every month. Are you being good about DTD during fertile week or have you been pretty chilled about when you do it so far?

@MarshmallowsOnToast I'm not usually a fan of pineapple but I'm willing to give it a go 🤞🏼

@Juno231 we have been fairly good at DTD I count 21 days out of 31 in March so fingers crossed AF is due 14th

Also drinking more water can help produce more fertile cervical mucus (not sure how it works other than keeping your body hydrated!) but that’s something else I did the month I got pregnant . Definitely step back from the apps and don’t track ovulation , just have sex every 2-3 days throughout the whole month once your period has finished until your period is late or arrives . Then you know you’ve given it your best shot . I know obviously if someone has fertility problems then these tips don’t work but it’s very normal for a healthy person with no fertility issues to take over a year to get pregnant (it took my friend 10 months after stopping the contraceptive injection) so don’t lose faith yet , just relax, have fun and don’t track. I promise that’s what helped me xx

@Positevibes I'm on cycle 5 of ttc. First baby. I had a chemical pregnancy at new year. I'm sorry you've been through the same. I don't know what the answer is, other than dtd regularly and trying to keep on top of your emotional wellbeing

@GaaaaarlicBread @CurbsideProphet thanks guys still got my finished crossed for this month AF is due Tuesday 🤞**@CurbsideProphet sorry you've been through the same thing I have all my fingers and toes crossed for you 🙂

@Positevibes AF is due next Wednesday for me.
Same to you 🙂

How are you @Positivevibes? I've been having brown discharge slight cramps (sorry TMI) which doesn't feel like a good sign. I'm trying to work on the basis that this cycle has been written off and I just need to get to May now

@CurbsideProphet still got my fingers crossed no sign of AF yet. I hope everything works out for you 😊 Brown discharge isn't always a bad sign from what I hear??

@Positevibes I've only seen stringy brown discharge (sorry for the description) like this before a chemical pregnancy. I'm currently day 23 / 11 days post ovulation. So many symptoms could be pregnancy or period which feels like a mean joke. Obviously there's a global pandemic, so I appreciate this is exceptionally minor in the grand scheme of things!

@CurbsideProphet I'm sorry you're having such a bad time.

@CurbsideProphet how are you today?

Thank you for thinking of me @Positevibes I'm still having the same symptoms. Maybe AF is v early because of all the CV stress

On the positive side we have sticky toffee pudding and 2 lindor bunnies

OP my advise if you get the clear blue 4 day OPKS asap. The first 4 months I TTC I went off my flow app thinking I was an 'average women' who would ovulate day 14 started using OPKS and how wrong had I been! Fell pregnant on 7th month

@CurbsideProphet well who doesn't love a bit of sticky toffee pudding. Happy Easter 🐣 I hope things start to settle down for you soon

@mrssunshinexxx thanks for the advice still holding out for this month AF due Tuesday if no luck it might be worth a try