TTC - how to not get stressed?!

[RobinRose]

Hiya,

Any tips on how to not get stressed with TTC (if it’s even possible to not stress!)? What do you do to take your mind off it?

Thank you

Not testing early! I know the temptation to test before AF is massive, but I’ve learnt that AF appearance is much less heartbreaking than repeat BFN’s.

Difficult question! For me it was hitting the 6 month mark and knowing that we hadn't fallen quickly or easily within the "average" time frame. And realising that we could really be in this for the long haul (including fertility treatment down the line if necessary). That was enough for me to think I have to be chilled, otherwise my life would be a misery for months/ years to come!

From a practical point of view I stopped doing opks. I never test early. Use an app to track. If in doubt DTD every 2-3 days and you'll be covered.

Recently been using a bit of meditation/yoga with positive thinking if I have a negative day (check out on YouTube). And try to be happy! One day we will get our wish, and there's no point being stressed / miserable in the meantime.

Thank you for your replies! We’ve just hit the 6th month mark, my parter had a VR and we were told it would be 6 months onwards before pregnancy would be likely. That hasn’t stopped me getting disheartened for the past moths when af shows! I think I need to try yoga or something, just anything to keep my mind off TTC! I hope one day soon we will get our wish @Skyla01!

As someone who has recently hit the 18 month mark and is going to start IVF once the lockdown is over, I'd say coming to terms with the fact that it might not happen, while accepting that we are doing everything we can to make it happen has helped me to live my life and not make it all about TTC.

At the 6 to 12 month stage of TTC I was going out of my head a little with stress, which wasn't helping (but as we know now there were medical factors at play it wasn't the stress that was preventing things either). "Relax and it will happen" is something of a myth I reckon. I think if you are stressed, just let yourself feel it... and then move on from it in whatever way you can - yoga, mindfulness journaling, planing non-baby things for the future, not putting your life completely on hold. Denying you are stressed to yourself create meta stress!! AHAHA! :)