TTC- The long game

[CMM20]

Hi guys, I know this made be a slightly odd post as most of the threads on here are about actively TTC but I thought I would start something different. My husband and I were originally planning to TTC come May. Due to a number of reasons, we felt it best to postpone this to October time (financial, work, weddings, corona etc) Its going to be tough as we were so ready to go-vitamins taken daily, ovulation tests ready to go, alcohol and caffeine reduced. But we know its the right decision for us and hopefully our future baby. I thought I would see if anyone else was in a similar position and is hoping to TTC later on in the year? I thought we could keep each other company and share any tips along the way? 😁❤️

Hi :) I’m in a similar position!
We were planning to TTC this month, ahead of our wedding this summer; however, due to Coronavirus and the fact that our wedding may now have to be postponed, we have decided to delay TTC until July/August, depending on how things go.
It’s really frustrating because we’ve felt “ready” for the last 2 years but, with planning the wedding and trying to progress in our careers, we thought it would be best to wait until we got married. Really wish we hadn’t waited now!
Wishing you all the best ❤️

So glad I saw this post! We had started TTC just a few days before all the corona stuff started happening. I was so excited to start trying but after it all started kicking off I got so worried that it was the wrong time. We had only DTD a couple of times but it had been in my fertile window and so I had the coil put in just in case. Since it's the non hormonal coil as soon as I have it taken out we can start trying again but I do feel sad that we've stopped trying. I'm 30 and the OH is 32 so we're not in any major rush but you read so many heartbreaking stories on here of people having TTC for so long that I worry we might have problems even though we've never tried before so don't know! I go on the forums now and wish we were trying but I still think for us it's better to wait. I'm not sure when we will start TTC again, I'll have to wait until things are normalish to get the coil removed and we were thinking of trying to avoid a late summer baby so as not to be the youngest in school (no idea how important that is and we'd be happy no matter what!). I am potentially looking at changing jobs in the near future and so if that does happen we might wait till after I've been in the new job a little while! I don't know what happens if you get pregnant weeks into starting a new job! Sorry for the long post!

@SaraT90 I'm so sorry to hear you may have to potentially postpone your wedding- A lot of my friends have had this and it's so tough- but when you get there it will be SO worth it. My wedding was the best day of my life- And that's from someone who wanted to run off and elope as I didn't dot 'big days.'

@MayDay27 I know how you feel about the frustration/sadness- It's so tough. A lot of our friends are currently pregnant and/or have young ones and I find it so heartbreaking. We love all of their kids so much and we're so ready to be parents but the time just isn't right. We're both 30 so I'm hoping time is on our side but I never want to just take that for granted.
I'm just hoping that 'everything happens for a reason' and there is a reason behind all of this. So nice to have some people in a similar position to chat to :) I think im driving my husband mad! Have you guys thought about what you're going to do in the lead up? I keep thinking about using this time as best I can to get myself in the best position. xx

@CMM20 before we had started to try last month I had been taking some supplements and had downloaded the Ovia app and using sticks to test for ovulation. I'm continuing tracking periods on the app and probably will continue taking the supplements I don't think there's any harm? I feel better doing something rather than stopping everything completely! We're reasonably healthy people although with lockdown obviously our sporting stuff is all cancelled so I'm trying to continue some exercise in the house! I don't drink caffeine but my fella switched to decaf and I'm not going to let him switch back! We are suppose to be getting married end of August just a small do and a bit of a party, I'm not sure what to will happen with that now. We're trying to use the time to sort stuff with the house but I just can't stop thinking about when we can start TTC again!!! I would be so much more chilled about it if I knew for certain it would happen and be ok but I suppose because there's always a chance that it won't I worry about wasting time. I did have a look up about fertility and age and it does seem like there isn't a major rush until mid to late 30s but ideally we would love two children

@CMM20 Thank you ☺️ Just hoping the wedding will go ahead at some point this year as we have been given a back-up date for September ☺️
I came off the Pill in October - partly to try to get my cycles back before TTC but also because I had a massive breakout last time I came off it so didn’t want to risk coming off it close to the wedding! I’ve been tracking my periods on the Glow app and using cheap ovulation tests to get a rough idea as to when I ovulate, but have been trying not to get too obsessed with it before we actually TTC ☺️

@MayDay27 Hope all goes to plan with your wedding! I know exactly what you mean about feeling more chilled if you knew it would happen! Even though we’re really keen to have a baby now I feel that, if someone could tell me to just enjoy the next few months before the wedding and guarantee that it would happen quickly when to decide to start TTC, I would be much more relaxed.

A friend told us she was pregnant a couple of weeks ago, just before this all kicked off, and I just admit was really jealous. I spoke to her earlier this week and she told me that her husband isn’t allowed to come into the 12 week scan and she hasn’t met her midwife yet as everything is being done over the phone at the moment. I’ve now gone from feeling really jealous to really sorry for her because the happy little things that everyone takes for granted have been taken away from her.

@SaraT90 That's good you've got a wedding date for September, I keep thinking things must be ok by then surely!! Before this situation got bad I was thinking it would be the perfect time to start TTC as would give me something to concentrate on and positive to look forward to. But then as the situation go worse I began worrying how it could affect the baby if I caught it. I know there's no proof that it does harm while pregnant but you never know and didn't want to take the risk!