It it Wong ?? Some advice please x

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Amid all this convid19 madness hubby says it's not a good time to have a baby we had a MMC last day of January. Waited for a cycle now I want to TTC he's hesitant I bought a clear blue to predict ovulation but told him I'll use it to predict when to to TTC I hit peak today and did the baby dance last night I'm so tempted to lie and say we are still in the clear until after peak. Am I wrong to lie ? Would this be considered tricking him ? We been together 20 years have a son who's 14 married for 13 years.

Some advice would be good feeling torn between having my rainbow baby and not being a... I don't know a liar ? Ps I'm 42

Sorry when not to TTC *

Don't lie to him. Once that trust is broken, your relationship could suffer. TTC has to be a joint decision and you both have to be ready. I know it's hard to wait considering your age and recent loss but now really isn't a good time to be falling pregnant especially as you are more likely to be anxious about being pregnant in the early stages given your recent experience. Plus, the services just aren't there to reassure/help you at this time with everything going on.

I understand how desperate you are but surely you can’t wait a few weeks. Your husband has not said he doesn’t want a baby he is just being protective as the world is upside down right now. You want the best possible help and medical care available and you will simply and rightly not be a priority right now. Hopefully this will die down soon and you can sit down and decide together when the time is right. Knowing you both want to make a baby will surely make the trying even more special

That should have said can ... isolation brain

Don’t lie to him.
Ultimately you have already DTD and you know that you got a peak reading so there is a chance you will get pregnant this cycle and therefore need to be honest with him. I would be heartbroken if I knew my DH had tricked me with something like this as I do believe trust is not something to be taken for granted.

I know I know ! You guys are right it must be isolation brain also being here and not doing anything makes our loss more prominent in my mind. I'll tell him I hit peak then I guess we can discuss it and the rest is in Gods hands . Thank you all for being my voice of reason xx