Anyone not just delaying but reconsidering TTC altogether due to Covid-19 and the impending recession?

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After a long time on the fence, I had finally come round to the idea and was actually enthusiastic about TTC. (DH always wanted kids, but I was extremely ambivalent until recently). We're not young; I will soon turn 36 and he will soon be 42. I had my coil out a few weeks ago and we were going to start TTC in April.

After the Covid-19 developments of the past few weeks, I was initially thinking that we'd delay by a few months, but the more I hear about state that the economy is going to be in after the lockdown, the more I think that it would be unwise to have a child at all. Anyone else feeling like this?

*converted I was (phone edit fail)

I was going to start ttc this year but it's on hold for now indefinitely. I don't think it's a good time to be pregnant and wouldn't want to put any extra stress on the NHS. I'm not as optimistic as others seem to be and although people have continued having kids all throughout history, it doesn't mean it was a good idea. If people had stopped having kids 100 years ago none of us would be here right now-and it isn't exactly good times is it? I can't even sleep right now for worrying! If this all miraculously went away in a couple of months with not too much damage to the economy then I would consider it but it would take a lot of thinking and debating with DH-as I think any one should do when making a decision whether to make a child go through life and all that entails. A decision often taken so lightly.

I don't get how people can use biology as an excuse though-we don't all have to give in to our urges, and some people don't even have them at all. I mean men are biologically programmed to want to have sex with as many women as possible like in nature, but I doubt you'd just go "oh ok well you can't help yourself" if your DH used that as an excuse to sleep around!

I'm 40, still ttc as I don't have long left to try. Was a fence sitter for many years, my ex husband really didn't want kids, was with him.for 10 years, he cheated 9n me so dumped him and found a perfect guy.
We started ttc last year.

Getting fed up of trolls or people like that telling me how stupid and selfish I am for wanting to try 🤬🤬🤬 they don't know me or my story but insist on telling me I'm stupid / selfish / insane etc

Just fuck off!

@lynsey91 not really sure why you're on the conception forum if you don't agree with people having children?

Ok let's all just stop conceiving and wait for us all to die out. Because that will really help the economy. I agree the world is overpopulated but that tends be in other countries where people, for a range of reasons, have a large number of children.

@Katie2017 you really think it's best none of us existed?

@BabyLlamaZen-ask me in a few months! Seriously though, I think it can get to a point where non-existence is better than life. Whether this virus will take us there or not I don't know. But I think you have to weigh up the likelihood that your kids will have a good enough quality of life for it to be worth it. Most people think life is worth it even if it involves being in agony every day which I don't personally agree with. Do I wish I myself had never existed? On the fence on that one right now. I know the emotional pain of watching the news and seeing all the heartbreak and tragedy is almost unbearable right now and it's not even happening to my family (yet) so sometimes I think I wish I didn't have to see it yes. I realise most people don't feel the same way though and think life will still be worth it even if this virus gets much worse. I've always been a pessimist though.

I am not worried about the economy or the state of the world, because the economy and state og the world was going bad for thousand years....

But what if this virus is like Zika? Noone can say it doesnt do any harm to a baby in an early pregnancy, right... thats what worries me right now?

Well today DH got told a load of them will have to be on furlough and obviously this could all go on for months. No end in sight right now. I actually woke last night and felt like I was having a panic attack. I can't cope with this being shut in business. So christ knows how I'd have managed with kids. I'd be crazy not to be rethinking things right now.

I’m nearly 40. I’m definitely not going to stop trying!

I have stopped because I need early support to not miscarry, due to a blood clotting issue. It terrifies me to think I’d get pregnant and then lose the baby (had three miscarriages before my daughter) . So I’m not risking that.

@Papoy this is nothing like zika, scientists / medics know this as it is part of the coronavirus family like SARS and MERS - neither of which cause foetal deformaties. They are respiratory illnesses (the RS in the name means respiratory syndrome)

According to some serious research the majority of western countries have reached their peak living standard in the sense that for the foreseeable future it is more likely that your children will have a worse living standards than yours

Serious research in the 70s foretold of food shortages and peak oil; it didn’t see the green revolution (in agriculture) that has (over)fed most of the planet.

Ridiculous doom-mongering needs to be called out; there’s never been a better time in history for humanity.

I would be TTC after covid 19 is over, I actually get to have my postponed weddings (married since 2015 but we planned to celebrate in 2020 as we were saving for a flat) and we have enough money for childcare. A lot of big IFs biut if you can cope emotionally and financially, I don't see what's wrong. People had babies even during world war 2.