Does anyone just feel like it's never going to happen?

[iswhois]

TTC #1 8 cycles

I know it's not been that long compared to some people's journeys, but I'm starting to feel really disheartened and fed up.

Was told I have good follicle count, good AMH and no apparent issues. So yes I know I need to "give it time" but I can't pretend it's not gutting seeing the blood on the toilet paper every month. I have a deep feeling that it will never happen for me; and it's eating me up inside.

Just wanted to vent really.

Hey!! I feel the same, cake off the pill in August, caught straight away but miscarried at 5 weeks and not caught since. Potentially had a chemical the last cycle but could of just been indents so not reading into it too much.

It's shit. Anyone who announces their pregnancy I just unfollow them on social media I.e mute them because I don't want to see it, it's like self harm just constantly seeing pregnant people for me at the moment. Xx

@iswhois 8 cycles is a long time! I know there are always people who have been trying for a year or 2 years, but they are, unfortunately for them, but fortunately for the masses, in the minority.

Most people can't wait a few weeks for something without getting impatient, 8 months is bloody ages!.

At the same time if all is well it's all going to work out and you'll end up just being one of the women who catch on month 9 or 12 or 15

You just need to keep trucking, in whatever way you can. I've even given up the vits now and I'm just living my life (with extra sex thrown in obviously).

Stay strong and treat yourself as much as possible. It's going to happen for you but you may be on it for a couple more months

TTC #1 however will be my 3rd pregnancy
Cycle #8

I hear ya! I've been lucky enough that my GP is running blood tests early as I had a chemical in Jan (and I am being really pushy). I've conceived accidentally twice before but my cycles have not gone back to normal since I had the implant out. My luteal phase is reaallly short so GP agreed to do bloods every 2 weeks. I have however had 2 progestone bloods done this week.

I am actually giving up TTC now. It's clearly not meant to be right now and it has consumed my life. I'm not concentrating at work, I am putting plans on hold just in case I'm pregnant. It has to stop.

Fuck TTC, really!

I completely hear you. I've been off the pill for 14 months & TTC #1 for 10months. My periods are all over the place so started to use OPKs and BBT. It completely takes over all your thoughts and brings out a very jealous/bitter/angry side when other people announce their pregnancies or suggest I should have a baby.
Now today I've started my period and my chart doesn't look like I've ovulate at all 😢 Definately feeling like it may never happen.
Sending lots of love, luck & baby dust!

Hi @Beau20 I've also had 2 previous pregnancies which weren't at the right time. Makes me sad I can't catch as quickly as the other times!! X

Sorry you're all in the same boat.

I actually had a chemical about 5 years ago when I wasn't TTC. Since I've been trying I haven't had a hint of a BFP.

Makes you wonder how people do it....is there something we are all missing? Lol

Same! Currently on cycle #7. I know it’s nothing in the grand scheme of things but it’s turning me into this bitter person when other people get pregnant.

@Nat4392 I unfollow them x pregnant announcement on social media? Like and then mute as I don't want to see it xx

TTC one cycle, pregnant = miscarriage

TTC one cycle not pregnant = coronavirus pandemic

So in answer to your question, yes lol. It's been six months since we set off on the journey of TTC and now this coronavirus has hit us. It sucks

Yes I'm over a year now. Started getting probs with cycles just before we started ttc . And there's no end in sight atm. It's really draining and depressing 😞😞😞 x

We are still trying despite the pandemic. I know people say it's nonsense but I really don't care. I don't think I will fall anytime soon in any case!!

@AliSxo my best friend is pregnant so I can’t just push her to the back of my mind when I speak to her most days. It’s so difficult!

I’m only on cycle 3 of trying so feel pretty silly compared to most but I do still worry it’s never going to happen. I cried all day last Tuesday when AF arrived, I’ve also deleted my Instagram because I can’t take seeing everyone else pregnant or pictures of their babies. I’m 31 so worried I’m getting older it’s not going to happen straight away, I resent my OH because he wasn’t ready and made me wait a year before trying, in this time I’ve seen people announce pregnancies and now they have their babies and it just feels so unfair.

I’ve bought opk test to try this month. I’m now on CD11 so will start using these in the next few days.

My cousin - in-law announced she was pregnant just as we started TTC. At the time I was really excited because I (naively) thought it would be lovely having babies at similar times. 10 months later and she has a beautiful baby girl and I'm still tracking temp and buying sanitary products 😔

It took me 8 months twice. The first pregnancy I had a mmc so had to start the journey again. On a positive note, you are statistically likely to be successful in the next four months.

Anyone else sick of hearing o there will be a baby boom after Coronavirus? I wish it was that easy to make a baby!! X

@AliSxo I'm almost as sick of this as people asking me when we will he trying for a baby 😂 OR for the people that know we are trying to 'just chill don't think about it and it will happen'

Yeah Sandra easier said than done! 🤦🏼‍♀️

@Beau20 I saw a celeb said o if I had a boyfriend in self isolation I'd be pregnant within a week, I thought o wonderful how naive!! Xx

@Chanel05 I hope you are right about the statistics. If this is the case then I'm due a baby soon!

Sadly though my hormones are all out of sync so I'm just going to genuinely take a back seat for now. My GP said longer than 6 months is longer than it should take (if no underlying issues) and I was like oh woman I'm so glad you agree!!! She said if everything works perfectly and you time sex correctly you should really fall within the first few cycles

@AliSxo oh FFS 🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️🤦🏼‍♀️

My best friend got pregnant last year while she was on the injection, didn't realise until she was 19 weeks and I was like listen, what fertility wizardry do you posses please give me your powers!!

@Beau20 I don't claim to be a fertility expert by any means - but your GP is not following the guidance that's actually on the NHS webpage, where it states it's perfectly normal for a healthy, fertile couple to take up to a year to conceive.

My DH and I had extensive fertility tests and our results came back that we were both very fertile. Believe me we did enough times and at the right times! It's down to luck very often! Even if you time sex perfectly, you only have a 20% chance of conceiving in any one cycle, and 50% of fertilised eggs don't implant.

I thought o wonderful how naive!! Xx

And the people who avoid TTC this time of year to avoid a Christmas baby.

I'll take Christmas, New Years, leap year, my birthday I don't care lol

@Chanel05 she's still following guidelines. I'm only having bloods done as I had 2 miscarriages/chemicals. But she said if my bloods are fine they won't do anything until 12 months. She mentioned all the 'guidelines' but the other still she said was just personal opinion as she is a fertility specialist GP also. I agree with her if I'm honest. I'm not saying I'm right by any means but I don't know anyone who has zero underlying issues that didn't conceive after 3 cycles... maybe I just have very lucky friends who knows!

I've been trying 4 months and have had 1 definite chemical pregnancy and 1 possible chemical pregnancy. I wish it was so easier as just having sex at the right time.

I had a blood test last week and I have extremelyow vit D. I hope that after I've finished my supplement I find it has a positive effect on my fertility.

Very much so. 20 odd cycles in and nothing. We pass all tests with playing colours. So yeah it feels like it will never happen