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GP early than 1year?

29 replies

StrawberryLady · 04/03/2020 13:12

Hello,
Has anyone asked the GP for some fertility tests before the time stated?
I m 27 and my DP is 36, we should try for 1 year before any referrals, but I m concerned something is wrong and I just can't wait that long. Any thoughts?

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MarshmallowsOnToast · 04/03/2020 13:35

How long have you been trying? Are you far off the 1yr?

HoffiCoffi13 · 04/03/2020 13:40

How long have you been trying?
My first took 13 months to conceive. No known issues, and my second and third were conceived first month of trying. Sometimes it just takes a while.
I don’t think a GP would refer to tests prior to the 1 year mark.

Livinginhope20 · 04/03/2020 13:46

Im feeling abit like this im on month 6 of trying for my first and i cant help but think there must he something wrong with but i also know that it can just take a while and not everybody is the same some people just take longer than others

StrawberryLady · 04/03/2020 14:40

I m only halfway so 6 months of trying...I know it's still very early but is so frustrating knowing that you do all and receive nothing.
Maybe I will search for a private clinic instead.
Also found some sperm quality self test in boots...do you think they work?

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MGee123 · 04/03/2020 20:20

It's unlikely a GP will send you for any fertility tests at this point as unfortunately it is perfectly normal for it to take up to a year to conceive. Perhaps just keep following the usual advice (DTD every other day or so) and keep a record of your cycles, symptoms etc so if you get to the point where you are referred you've got all the info? It's statistically likely you'll conceive in the next 6 months so just keep trying! Wishing you luck 🤞

AliSxo · 04/03/2020 20:34

Yep, been twice!! Been trying since August, caught in September but miscarried at 5 weeks. First time I went was December as my periods became heavier, they weren't concerned as my periods are regular. Went two weeks ago and he said the fertility hospital won't see us until we've been trying for a year but he'll do blood tests to check my hormone levels a week before my period is due so got that booked in for Monday xx

calimommy · 04/03/2020 20:54

Just tell them it's been a year? Unless it's on file somehow. My friend told them she'd been trying for 14 months (but only 6) and was referred. She got pregnant 3 cycles later but needed clomid. She said she didn't care at all about lying, she knew something was wrong, which it was, and wanted to be taken seriously.

HoffiCoffi13 · 04/03/2020 21:00

Well yeah, I guess we could all make symptoms up to get what are likely to be unnecessary tests, but what state would the NHS be in then?

Bol87 · 05/03/2020 08:36

Great advice - lie to your GP 🤦🏼‍♀️ let’s help the already crippled NHS shall we..

OR you could just remain patient, keep trying for a year like everyone else & then speak to your GP. These things just take time sometimes..

amazedmummy · 05/03/2020 08:42

There's a reason they make you wait a year, it's because it can take a perfectly healthy couple a while to conceive.

Livinginhope20 · 05/03/2020 08:46

I dont think lying to your GP is the way forward, yes its frustrating that you have to try for a year before they will entertain you but sometimes it just takes others longer. Im desperate to be a mum iv never wanted something so bad in all my life but the guilt i would feel for saying id been trying longer than i actually had would break me down.

Lazydaisydaydream · 05/03/2020 08:53

I was referred to fertility specialist earlier than a year by my GP because there were obvious issues (very long irregular cycles). So if there is obviously an issue they will refer you. Be aware though that I was then on a waiting list nearly a year long for the fertility doctor anyway!! (although did manage to avoid that due to other reasons)

bunhead34 · 05/03/2020 08:55

I think it's worth going to the gp, they won't refer you yet but might do some initial blood tests - usually to check your thyroid and progesterone levels - good luck!

CatsCatsCats11 · 05/03/2020 08:55

If you have known issues they will refer you after 6 months PCOS for example.

BelleBox19 · 05/03/2020 09:52

If you are concerned at this point I would go to a private clinic for testing.

I visited my GP after 4 months of 'trying', I say trying because I hadn't had a period in that time, so no ovulation/cycles etc. I also had glaringly obvious symptoms. If you are having regular cycles then I doubt they will do much. They may do some of the obvious blood tests though.

Turns out I was diagnosed with PCOS. I still had to wait at least 6 months for referral and then wait for an appointment. All in all it took 2.5 years for us but I fell pregnant naturally eventually just before starting treatment.

So many couples with no issues conceive even after a whole year of trying. My SIL/BIL have no issues and it took 2 years for them.

StrawberryLady · 05/03/2020 10:13

Hi all and thank you for replying!
I don't want to lie to my GP just because It's about my body and health and I want to be totally honest. just wanted to know if any of you had any luck with tests before 1 year, sometimes I think it's worth a try ...but guess I will just wait 😞

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waterbottle12 · 05/03/2020 11:04

I'm a GP and I won't investigate before 1y unless the woman is over 35 or has a known diagnosis likely to affect fertility. 80% will conceive in the first year and another 10 % in the second year. Wait til 1y.

StrawberryLady · 05/03/2020 11:28

@waterbottle12 thanks, it gives me hope c

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FlamingoG88 · 05/03/2020 17:17

@waterbottle12 please can I ask a question (sorry if that's annoying, you probably get it all the time)?

I had leukaemia as a child, would my GP still tell me to try for a year? I'm paranoid that the chemo will have had an affect on me.

waterbottle12 · 05/03/2020 17:22

@FlamingoG88

that's an interesting one. If I was your GP I'd probably discuss that with my local paediatricians, or even better the paeds that looked after you as a child. Were you told it would upset your fertility or told to freeze your eggs? Were you pre or post puberty?

FlamingoG88 · 05/03/2020 17:25

@waterbottle12

I was 8 when I was diagnosed and my fertility was never discussed, I believe because I was pre puberty and time was of the essence.

I've asked my mum and she said she didn't think to ask them because all she cared about was me getting better which I fully understand!

waterbottle12 · 05/03/2020 17:28

@FlamingoG88 yes as a parent I can completely understand that!

Depending on how old you are I think this might be worth pursuing now as it can take a while to dig out old records. It may depend on the type of chemo you had. I'd suggest you write to your old oncologist if your Mum has the name (or to their department if he/she has retired) and ask them. The GP won't know, this is too specialised.

MarshmallowsOnToast · 05/03/2020 18:20

OP

Have you recently come off hormonal contraception?

Have you been tracking your cycles & confirming ovulation?

FlamingoG88 · 05/03/2020 18:29

@waterbottle12

Thank you so much for responding. I actually have a GP appointment next week for my periods so I'm going to bring it up with her. I just don't want to be trying for over a year to find out I actually should have spoken up sooner.

boringadvice · 05/03/2020 19:57

I would wait a year as within that time scale it's perfectly normal.
If it helps DC3 took nearly two years, I didn't go to the GP as I felt it was a little selfish given I already had 2DC.

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