How do you cope?

[newgirlhere]

Hello fellow mummies and mummies to be,

How and what do people do every month to cope every time good old AF comes?

Me and my partner have only been trying for 5 months ( which I know it's not long) but I feel like every time my AF comes I feel just a little bit more hope is getting lost every month. When she's arrived (AF) I feel like I just spend the day wondering what I have done wrong and why I can't convince.

We are having sex in the right times as I have been using opks to determine when I am ovulating and having sex every other day ( joys of enjoying it so much haha )

I don't want negativity as I simply want to know what has kept people going until they see there BFP and how to stop thinking so negative.

Hi @newgirlhere, I totally get where you're coming from and it can feel like a very lonely place! I was getting so upset when AF arrived and wouldn't even be able to talk to my DH for a little while that day because of how guilty I felt that it hadn't work that month (he's such a loving and caring soul that this made me feel even worse lol!). What works for me is talking it through with my DH and a close friend.... I found the more I kept it to myself the more it hurt. Also talking it through with my doctor has helped and getting the ball rolling with a blood test (21 day postegrone test) has put my mind at ease (due the blood test in a couple of weeks) as I know I've got the ball rolling should something not be quite right. Not sure if that will help but it's helped me x

I’m only on the second cycle but honestly I cried the day AF/chemical pregnancy came and felt like I failed and did something wrong. I’m never emotional with periods either so it was a shock

It’s hard :( I found last month extremely hard and was very down. If I get to six months I’ll be going to the dr. I’m not leaving it a year.

We've only been trying for a few months so I'm still at the stage of trying to find the 'positives' in a BFN, even though it's obviously disappointing initially ... for example we have a spa evening booked on Monday and now I can fully enjoy the sauna and hot tub! And I have tickets to a concert in October which I'll definitely be able to go to now (would have been questionable if 9 months pregnant).

Doubt these small things will keep me going after many more months but for now, they'll do until I start focusing on the next set of OPKs 🙂

AF came for me today. I was philosophical about it until I contacted the sperm donor I'm TTCing with and he can't see me for my next cycle. Then I cried.

I feel quite down. I'm too old to hang about. Trying for up to a year is totally normal that's the thing. So a few months is what we'd all expect. But we want it now. I wish I had more time.