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Anyone pregnant from withdrawal method performed correctly?

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littlepup · 12/02/2020 05:37

I know it's vaguely possible and I know it's also very unlikely, especially when performed "correctly". Recent studies are showing only a 4% failure rate and disproving that pre- ejaculate contains sperm, a popular myth of my high school years.
I only ask as we dtd on day 14 and the night of 13; he didn't ejaculate the first time and the second time withdrew with plenty of time to spare ...And the following day he broke up with me! A very final break up. Part of me can't help but hope for a child as I know it will be the only thing to bring him back. I've also longed for a child every cycle and known it hasn't been the right time financially so we never "tried" and kept plodding on withdrawal for the last few years. I had hoped to have a child with him in 10ish years and now that's looking very much off limits. The healthy thing would be to forget and start anew, but very recently dumped after a 4 year relationship and forget reason, unhealthy is all I want atm. Mixed feelings of love, hate, never wanting to see him again and then on one hand wanting to raise a child with him. It'll be a long, hard 2 week wait this one so it would be lovely if anyone could share their own stories and personal experiences with withdrawal. I think if I come out the other side without a baby it'll be the sensible ending but I can't help but dream for the ending that "never was"!

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nachthexe · 12/02/2020 05:52

Yes. Lots of people on here. Look up the other threads.

YeahNahWhal · 12/02/2020 05:59

It worked perfectly for us, in terms of effective contraception after our first. Probably not what you wanted to hear, sorry about your break up.

ExtraFirmHold · 12/02/2020 06:04

Sorry about your breakup. It worked perfectly for us for years. And if you've been successfully using this method for a while chances are it's still going to be successful even if you wish it wasn't, sorry.

GiveHerHellFromUs · 12/02/2020 06:05

Why would you want him to come back if you were pregnant? Why would you want a man to only be with you for a child?

Sorry you're going through a tough time.

4amWitchingHour · 12/02/2020 06:06

FFS don't hope for a child to stitch a broken relationship back together Confused I'm sorry you're hurting with the breakup, but pregnancy would be the worst thing right now if you'd use it as emotional blackmail.

TheGirlWithAPrince · 12/02/2020 06:49

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TheGirlWithAPrince · 12/02/2020 06:50

Oh also he wouldn't come back. He would swoop in and be a Disney dad whilst your a single parent struggling and he goes off to date other woman when you can't even catch a moment to yourself.

That's reality. Learn what real life is like otherwise you will always be like this.

aNonnyMouse1511 · 12/02/2020 06:53

Yes. I also didn’t ovulate for 5 days after either!

scrivette · 12/02/2020 06:55

Yes it worked for me for many years.

Fullforcegale · 12/02/2020 06:58

Completely understandable on an emotional level that you want a baby with the person you love.
Whenever I’ve had a horrible breakup I’ve found it helpful to delete them from social media and avoid any contact.

FlowerArranger · 12/02/2020 06:58

OK is there still time to take the morning after pill?

And then get yourself into therapy as you clearly have issues, not to mention poor self-esteem and unhealthy neediness.

A baby is neither a pet nor a glue for gluing together a broken relationship.

Originalusernameunavailable · 12/02/2020 07:01

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GiveHerHellFromUs · 12/02/2020 07:02

@originalusernameunavailable she had sex with the long term partner then he left her Hmm

Theroigne · 12/02/2020 07:04

Op seriously you need to time off men altogether to sort your head out before you even think about bringing a child into your life.

Theroigne · 12/02/2020 07:06

@Originalusernameunavailable I thought the same too. It’s not v clear.

StiffUpperQuip · 12/02/2020 07:16

You don't want a baby to try and get a boy back. Wait a few years until you grow up, move out of your parents, get a career etc. Cos you are a teenager, right?

coffeeforone · 12/02/2020 07:58

Part of me can't help but hope for a child as I know it will be the only thing to bring him back.

OP, sorry you're feeling like this, but to me this sounds absolutely crazy.

I think it's very unlikely that you can get pregnant using withdrawal method correctly, but it is certainly possible.

DH and I used the withdrawal method successfully not getting pregnant for 9 years so it was reliable. But after 9 years we did end up with a big surprise/shock of an unplanned pregnancy (now a delightful 4 year old)...so maybe not as reliable as we thought! But still, from our 9 years of withdrawal I'd still say chances are very low!

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littlepup · 12/02/2020 10:18

Such a large bunch of bullies, thanks for replying for those who did constructively. I see why people now avoid the internet! First time on forum, last time.

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puds11 · 12/02/2020 10:21

It’s not bullying to state that it is unhealthy to want a baby to get a man back. That’s just factual I’m afraid. I think when you look back on this once you are feeling better you would agree.

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littlepup · 12/02/2020 10:40

Indeed, I stated that myself. It's unhealthy, I'm aware, as I said. I merely wondered what others experiences were. A lot of the comments just go a bit off the show with nasty presumptions. I'm not one to give my life details away online regarding age, circumstances and even if I have other children. So yes, bullies.
Is there anyway to remove a post?
I honestly do appreciate the replies here that are helpful, thanks to all of you who gave your time to a stranger! But baffling that others have satisfaction from meanness and it doesn't help anyone, so ideally it'd be best to remove this, but Ive no idea how...

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puds11 · 12/02/2020 10:42

If you report your own thread to MN HQ, click the dots at the bottom of your post, and say you’d like the thread deleted then they will take it down for you. I hope you look after yourself and feel better soon Flowers

TitusP · 12/02/2020 10:51

People saying things you do not want to hear is not bullying. You are coming across as quite unstable at the moment, I think perhaps you need some time to calm down and work through your emotions given the break up is still so raw.

BeingATwatItsABingThing · 12/02/2020 11:32

I’m sorry you’re feeling upset about the breakup. I can understand wanting something that will lead you to getting back together but a baby is definitely not the way.

DH and I used a mixture of withdrawal and condoms for 5 years after DD was born. It then took us over a year to actually conceive when we wanted to. For most people, it is a very effective method.

Originalusernameunavailable · 12/02/2020 12:16

I apologise if you think it’s ‘bullying’ but the facts you stated are evidence that you really should be thinking about a more effective method of contraception.

GiveHerHellFromUs · 12/02/2020 12:23

Given there's 3 posts that have been removed my MNHQ I don't think it's a big leap to assume that they did cross a line somewhere.

OP don't worry about getting the thread deleted. Just unwatch it. MNHQ are good at removing nasty, unnecessary comments but if you do unwatch there's no risk you'll see them.