To have a 3rd baby

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Is anybody else absolutely torn about whether or not to have a third? I’ve thought about it most days for several years now and still can’t decide. I wish I could make a decision. Youngest is 4 and I’m 36. Hope I’ve posted this in the right place.

That's a tricky question and in the end only you can decide but it might help you to express your thoughts 'outloud'.

What is your current situation and what are your pros and cons?

It’s been a while since I’ve talked ‘out loud’ about it so that probably will help. It’s currently a head v heart battle. Heart says yes, head says no. DH wouldn’t mind either way.

We had fully decided that we would stick at 2. Baby 1 was easy. Baby 2 has been hard, due to allergies and reflux also colic. That sort if made us happy with what we had. Plus I'm 39 this year and my dp is 40.

However my little man had just turned 6 months and we have found out I'm pregnant...! Was a massive shock and wasnt sure how I would cope as it's hard with 2. Now the initial shock has worn off I'm so excited for it. Especially as I see how lovely it is with these 2 playing together.

In the end it's what is right for your family. Would you be happy to just stick with the 2 you have? Can you afford another without it causing issues? Do you have space for another. Just a few things to consider I guess xxx

What a shock for you that must have been. Do you ever wish you could turn back the clock or are you happy it’s worked out this way?
We do have space for another and while it would squeeze our finances, we could afford it.

Well when I first found out I was like I can't do this, felt guilt that it will take away attention from the other 2 etc. I think it was just the initial shock! When baby 3 is born I will have a 3 year old and 14 month old eek! However 6 months in and things are alot easier. So I know the first 6 months will probably be hell lol

I had a friend who had 2 and said she always had that I'm not done yet feeling, but now shes had number 3 she said she is done and doesn't feel that broody feeling anymore. I did feel sort of broody and a bit sad when my 2nd went from newborn to little person etc. So I think maybe we would of had another in a little while. But defo done now lol wont be having another. Told dp he can have the snip haha xx

I have always been told, when your done you just know...

I have two and while I didnt think a third was on the cards I never really felt done. Up until now I was pretty uncertain and never really thought about actively trying.

Mine are 8 & 6.
My partner and I have only just decided to start trying and I am actually beyond excited.
It's like something just kicked in and suddenly I knew I had one more in me.

Im almost 33.
But ultimately it's a decision that is obviously yours.

Good luck xx