New to all this - Hi/Help!

[BeachPeach]

Hi All, I’m very new to all this (baby stuff + forums) mostly been lurking in the forums and feeling confused/frightened of you lovely lot 😖 - please be nice 😆

I’m very new to the idea of “TTC”... I stopped taking the pill waaay back in 2015, and since then me and my partner have been increasingly casual about taking any precautions to avoid getting pregnant. About 18 months ago we decided we should probably actively think about having kids.

I wouldn’t call it “trying” but we’ve been having pretty regular unprotected sex for about 2 years now and I’m starting to get a bit angsty that I’m never going to get pregnant. For the last few months we’ve been a bit more tactical and still nothing.

Tell me I’m being over dramatic and I need to chill out / Bamboozle me with things I should have thought of / reassure me that there’s nothing to worry about / entertain me with your experience... GO!

Any reason to think there might be issues? In your shoes, I’d probably be thinking of finding out a bit more in case you decide to go to see your doctor sometime down the line.

E.g.
Consider tracking your cycles. There are lots of ways of doing this, depending on how obsessive you want to be.

Otherwise just make sure you and DP are generally in good health. Are you taking folic acid?

Hi @crazychemist There’s nothing to make me really worry, other than the fact that it’s been ages since I stopped taking the pill.

We’re both fortunate that we’re fit and healthy, both 31 and no history of any health nasties.

I’ve been using Clue for years mostly so I know when to expect AF and there’s no drama there either, pretty predictable cycle etc...

🤔

Oh and yeah, I’m on the folic acid (I remember to take it most days 😆)

If you’re not worried, I’d say stay not worried! Keep on dtd. Recommendation is every 2 days throughout your cycle if possible, but I imagine you already know that

Maaan, every 2 days feels like an effort when you’ve been together 9 years 😂 But yeah, you’re right! More sex, less stress!

Every 2 days is even harder when you have a toddler in tow! But yes, my initial advice is more sex, less stress!