Please help !

[Michelle2517]

I need tips on being less stressed! Sitting this morning crying my eyes out because im going into my 6th month of TTC and i know thats not long but this is my first time and im getting really down

I feel you!
Month 15 over here and feels like it will never happen.
My best advice is find something else to occupy your mind - I’m spending all my time in the gym to try to get as healthy as possible and take my mind off things!
It’s awful though, I cry most months!

@Mooey89 I legit cant think of anything else it is always on my mind! Im trying to eat healthier and loose some weight and even though i say it will happen when it happens i cant help but think "what is wrong with me". I really hoped i had caught it this month but low and behold AF turned up friday morning and has finished already (nothing new for me).

20 months here. Still live in eternal hope that this month will be my month. It never bloody well is. I can't honest say it gets any easier, but you should take hope in the fact that the average time to get pregnant is 12 months. Sometimes on here it seems that everyone else is getting a bfp except you.

I feel your pain, been crying my eyes out all afternoon. This is month 12 after a miscarriage last Jan and I'm 38 so I'm not feeling very hopeful, feel so shit about it all and it feels very lonely when a lot of my friends are getting pregnant so easily. It doesn't get easier but you will find that gradually it won't consume your every thought. A reluctant acceptance will seep it that 'it'll happen when it happens' and that phrase with get less annoying as time goes on. I still have hope. That doesn't fade. Good luck, if you are over 35 go and see your GP as you've been trying long enough to get a referral to the fertility clinic, 12 months if under 35.
Do talk about it to close friends.
Do allow yourself to feel like shit.
Do go and get accupuncture or something to help you release and relax.
Don't lose hope.
Don't be unkind to yourself, it doesn't help.
You're not alone, good luck x

I've completely contradicted myself on the hope part! Good days, bad days ;) today being a bad one!

Have you read It Starts With The Egg? I read it a couple of weeks ago and I’m taking about 10 supplements a day now. I’ve also got rid of a lot of plastic in the home and switched to stainless steel. In the book the cites multiple studies that show how this increases your likelihood of being pregnant and keeping it. I’m also on a Facebook group for the book. It’s a mine of information.

Are you using ovulation sticks?
My friend tried for a year to no avail, in passing convo I just mentioned to her that I had some ovulation sticks spare if she wanted them - said she'd never used them. Realised after one month she was missing her peak as it was 2-3 days earlier than the standard 14 days even tho her cycles were regular. She conceived the following month.

Im only 30 and already beem told by the doctors to give it a year. I know they say in standard practice you should conceive within a year but when you read storys on here about how long alot of people have waited it doesnt give you any hope. I am using opks but last month was the first month that i actually managed to catch my ovulation because i only stopped the pill in aug last year and with having a longer cycle than "normal" i just by chance took an opk on cd24 and it was positive so all i can do is DTD every other day throughout the month and hope it catches, im not usually one for crying my heart out so have no idea what came over me yesterday to sit and break my heart over my morning cuppa! Hope 2020 is all our year for BFPS xx

Big hugs... it's hard as it so easily takes over your life as you become so body centred.
We tried for 12 months then it was ectopic and i lost my left tube- I thought that was it for us. Then the next month I got pregnant again!
In cycle 4 ttc no2 now and hopeful every month, but it's easier this time round (so far) as my expectations of an early positive are much much lower than last time!
I promise you that the wait is worth it, in hindsight the year ttc flew by, plus you might have needed a month or two for your body to settle into a natural rhythm?
Try and keep positive xx

@Sammyclaire22 thanks hun 🥰 its just so consuming and we are not telling anybody we are TTC so as to not have the constant questions. How did you know you were pregnant like what signs did u get? A few people have said you just know but i cant help thinking il be the one who just wont know. I symptom spot like a crazy lady and i would just like to enjoy TTC and not look back wishing i had been less stressed xx

OP please read the book I recommended. Many people have got pregnant doing what she recommends after years of trying.

Sorry you're struggling. 😕

No idea if this helps but the month I got my BFP the only think I changed was eating pineapple core for 5 days after confirmed ovulation. It had the enzyme bromelain that helps with implantation.

Might be a huge coincidence but maybe worth a bit of research (although not much too research it's pretty easy!).

Good luck!

^^Sorry loads of typos in there 😕

Thank you for all your replys ladies xx

Will just need to keep trying xx

@Michelle2517 I get the not telling anyone- we didn't then or now. I didn't tell anyone close about our loss either (mil is a gossip so didn't want half the world knowing) so i get the internal obsessing that comes from keeping it quiet!
As for symptoms, first time I had really sore boobs but had had a period so tested q late (about 10days after af, but probably because it wasn't implanted properly) Second time I knew really early! Tbh I knew it would be our month even before we dtd, probably wishful thinking as i was a bit messed up but i used bbt to track my cycle. I had spotting 8dpo, my nipples went darker and boobs went sore. Bought a frer to stop myself obsessing and tested 10dpo and got a bfp- took a while to believe it was real!
Best thing is to keep track of symptoms each month with an app. This time round in dif cycles I've had nausea, sore boobs the lot so after a few months im trying to rationalise more that they are hormone related rather than pregnancy and doing my best to keep busy!

@Sammyclaire22 how do you mean you still got a period? Did you get a BFP 10 days after ur period? Its just all so confusing to me lol they make getting pregnant sound so easy when in fact its soooll hard xx

@Michelle2517 I mean I bled heavily for about 4 or 5 days! And yes about a week later did a test randomly as my boobs hurt so much and i didnt know why. Dr siad at the time implantation bleeding can be heavy, but I think it's because it had implanted in my fallopian tube and the hcg levels are supposed to be lower in ectopic pregnancies too so if I had tested sooner it might not have shown.
But I still had some heavy bleeds with my daughter's pregnancy (but only for a day) and some women have periods the whole pregnancy apparently! But other than that it was really straightforward- boob symptoms and then nausea and fatigue!

@Sammyclaire22 it just shows you everybody is different, i really thought we had caught it this month as when i was due to do my pg test i got my period or so i think anyway, i did notice it was more wet if that makes sense but i bled for 2 and a half days which isnt uncommon for me, me and oh had a horrible fall out last night not over TTC just alot of pressure and tension building up and i got really upset because i think im never going to get pregnant and i feel like nobody understands how i feel inside each month when AF shows her ugly head lol xx