Scared of being pregnant..

[Laur11]

I really want to become a mum. I feel at the right stage to do it.. yet i have this fear of being pregnant.

I'm not the best when it comes to health things.. and i am so terrified of morning sickness and throwing up and then the actual process of giving birth and the pain. Its really scaring me and ruining what should be an exciting time.

I feel really bad because both me and my fiance want to have a baby, but i seem to be avoiding doing the deed because of this fear that it will just be nine months of discomfort.

Any tips? I'm just worried I'm not strong enough.

You could have a look at the Positive Birth Company on YouTube? It's hypnobirthing and helped me have an amazing birth x

Hypnobirthing is amazing, I had Ds3 with zero pain relief just using Hypnobirthing.

Lots of women, including myself are not ever sick with morning sickness. I felt sick, but wasn't sick once. I think it's entirely understandable that you are concerned about being pregnant, it's a huge thing, but 9 months isn't that long and look what you get at the end of it. That said, if you are scared it is worth seeing a therapist about it.

All I will say is when it happens you feel horrendous but then it's over as quick as it began and you won't remember it ☺️

I had a rough pregnancy, very little sickness but I was in constant pain from 10 weeks. I had reduced movements and additional monitoring. I'm only 8 weeks PP but I already can't really remember how it felt. I've written down how it felt so I'd remember in the future but I honestly can't remember accurately how awful it was.

I was in a similar boat 2 years ago, i did some research and hired some local doulas who were amazing- they support you through your whole pregnancy (including any issues with your hospital) whether it's someone to talk to over worries, or for antenatal classes (I still talk to the girls i met in my class weekly) or pregnancy yoga etc, and are there at your birth both to support you, your choices and also someone you actually KNOW in the room. They also really help to support your partner to support you.
They helped me so so much with my phobias and fears, gave me advice about which hospital was better for certain aspects over others (not all midwife led units are the same!) and I ended up having the most amazing planned home birth. I was also in contact with the prenatal mental health team who were really good (for a while it looked like I'd need a CS and they got the surgeons to agree if I did I could have no drapes- one of my worries was not seeing what was happening to me)

In birth felt totally safe, only used a tens machine for 99% of it with a tiny bit of gas and air at the end in the pool for leg cramp! Being in the right head space made all the difference. Hypnobirthing Is great for getting you away from your thinking worrying mindset, and the hours passed in a blur. None of the medical staff even held her for the first 4 hours of her life :)
But if the thought of pain really worries you, you can request a planned cs, or any other intervention. You have so many rights in birth, it's just knowing how and when to ask.

As for the pregnancy I was worried about how I would cope, but in reality I just felt bleurgh and tired for the first 3 months, but was only sick once (travel pressure bands really helped!) after that pretty good even being heavily preggers during the heatwave.

Sorry for the waffle- the short of it is that you don't know what pregnancy or birth you will have, but it might go a lot better than you think and the real hard work starts when the baby arrives! But its totally worth all of it. The key to it all is to make sure you have the right support xx