DH is annoying me regarding trying

[PlomBear]

He originally said we would stop using condoms after marriage. Then he said let’s wait until autumn. Then said “okay summer then if it makes you happy.” Now said we can stop using condoms sometimes, it’s like he doesn’t actively want to try yet says he wants to start a family?

FFS! I’m 34, we have two flats we rent out, currently living in military married quarters, both have decent jobs, money and no debt. I don’t even know whether to buy pre-natal vitamins or just not bother.

He's just stringing you along pretending he wants the same thing as you do to keep you quiet and get you to comply with him
In other words he's bullshiting ....future faking
It's not a good look ☹️

Agree with pp. He needs to crap or get off the pot. It's not fair to constantly change goal posts. If children isn't what he wants then that is valid and something for you both to work out.
If he maintains it is what he wants but he's apprehensive and stalling out of fear then it's also something for you both to support each other through. But you support him (I'm also a military spouse) and basic and honest communication isn't too much for you to ask for. Good luck. And I hope you can both find an outcome that supports you both. Xxx

He knows that he's in a strong position here, he just has to string you along for a few more years until your fertility declines and your opportunity to have a baby it's gone and then he will get what he wants
He's just pretending to co-operate with you to keep you sweet so that you don't give him any grief, that way he gets to have his cake and eat it too
there's no cake for you but you don't matter, as long as he gets his cake he's happy

"Stop using condoms sometimes"? What the actual hell is the point of that?

Not actively trying, in my opinion, means stopping contraception but not specifically tracking things like ovulation and making sure you have sex at the perfect time. So basically just having sex as you normally would, but unprotected.

It sounds to me as though this guy doesn't want kids at all, and he's just stringing you along. Sorry.