Weight loss or baby or both? Advice please

[2020wish]

I’m by no means massively over weight.. I am carrying a bit of extra weight atm due to settling down a bit more but had plans to get it off this year and then plan my baby for after. But due life plans my partner and I have decided now is the right time to ttc for us. We started in December but with no success...

Problem is I was out last week with my mum for drinks and while a bit intoxicated she made what she thought was a harmless playful comment to me regarding my weight.. she even tried to take food from my hand and said that I needed to start acting to get this weight off. Thing is the comment hit me hard and kind of embarrassed me also. I have addressed the comment to her since without alcohol involved and she’s extremely sorry etc but now the past week I have felt so down and I’m a funk over myself... my partner has even noticed my behaviour.. now my mind is all over the place on whether I can continue to try for baby number two and try and lose/maintain a healthy weight that’s safe for me and baby or do I hold off on baby first or a healthy weight first?

I’m very conflicted as the last thing I want to happen is to put on loads more weight with pregnancy and put me and baby at risk (my first pregnancy 9 years ago I gained a considerable amount of weight that was very hard to get off and caused complications.

Advice please from anyone is same boat? And please no back handed comments about weight loss during pregnant is dangerous. I know we naturally gain weight and weight loss should be avoided but I’m asking more ok maintaining a healthy weight or the correct way to go about my situation or even just a bit of encouragement as I’ve no one else to express these feelings and thoughts too that would understand

If you feel like now is the right time to TTC then I would go for it - in the mean time make sure you're making healthy choices regarding your food and partake in some light exercise.

All of this will help you if you're trying to get pregnant. Remember it can take 12 months for a healthy (no known fertility issues) couple to fall pregnant, so if you start to take care of yourself now you could potentially see a big difference by the time you fall.

And it's not a given that you'll put loads of weight on when pregnant - again just make the best choices you feel able to.

I'm around 4stone overweight and hoping to conceive, I'm cutting down hoping to lose some weight, I don't drink anyway, I think that becoming healthier, can only benefit you anyway and will increase chances of conceiving. Do not worry about any other peoples opinions. Cutting down on takeaways, processed food alcohol isnt necessarily a diet anyway and is encouraged. My last pregnancy I was 21 stone and although I was only 28, it was hard going, I didnt put anymore weight on stayed the same weight and delivered a healthy baby. I did have gestational diabetes but I was monitored throughout. I'm around 15 stone and quite a bit older at 44 so I'm going to just see if being healthier might increase my chances xx good luck, there are people in the same position as you.

@2020wish do both and research the healthiest way to do both. I did both and just spoke to my OBGYN and other docs to make sure my workouts weren't a hinderance. I also had a friend who did light baby approved workouts every single day she was pregnant! So no worries and Good luck in both endeavors.

Thanks for the advice. I’ll do that I’ll continue to eat healthier and go walking while continuing to ttc. Just hope I don’t get a craving in pregnancy for something bad