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Not sure whether it’s the right time to start ttc, advice?

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Hello2231 · 02/01/2020 12:49

My partner and I have been discussing starting a family. It’s something we both really want and have spoken about now for about 2 years, probably more seriously in the past year.
I’m 24 and he’s 25, we have a happy, stable relationship.

Here’s our situation:
We have a mortgage together on a 1 bedroom flat, we tried to sell at the beginning of 2019 and had no luck due to external cracks putting people off. Those cracks are being repaired this month and we have made some changes to make our property more appealing, we are planning to go back up for sale soon.

Obviously we have no idea if it will sell or when, the market isn’t great for flats at the moment it would seem. We have savings and equity (hopefully) enough to buy a 2 or 3 bed house in our area so it’s just a waiting game really. We would both need to be working to get a mortgage for the amount we need to borrow so the concern there is if I fell pregnant/ maternity leave pay etc could affect a mortgage.

Has anyone else been in a similar position? I really feel ready to start a family but I’m worried I will be stuck in a 1 bed flat when the baby becomes a child etc. Financially we would be fine in the flat but obviously space would become an issue quite quickly.
My head tells me it’s best to wait but my heart is really longing for a baby and to start our family. Part of me thinks as long as you have a roof over heads and food on the table then a cramped flat is not the end of the world. But part of me wants to be able to decorate a nursery etc and not go through the stress of moving whilst pregnant or with a newborn.

I know this is a bit all over the place, I guess I’m just looking for other people’s opinions or experiences with similar situations?

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ttc2018andbeyond · 02/01/2020 12:57

If you can afford it then go for it. You don't know how long it may take you, months or years.

Hello2231 · 02/01/2020 13:43

Thanks. Wishing you luck on your journey Smile

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peachypetite · 02/01/2020 13:50

I sold my small house last year because I felt it wasn’t suitable for a baby. We had a gap between selling that and completing on our new one because the market was so slow. We ended up moving in with parents. It was the most stressful experience of my life and I’m glad I wasn’t pregnant! The whole thing took months. Personally I would wait to be settled. You’re still young and have time on your side.

sarahc336 · 02/01/2020 14:20

I guess none of us can advise you on what you should do as there is no right/wrong answer.
as what the others have said, moving and being pregnant would be stressful and you defo have time on your hands. However saying that none of us know how long it'll take to conceive, it could be a month, it could be 18 months so I don't think there's a right or wrong answer. Just go with what you feel is the right decision for you guys over all Smile xx

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