Anyone else mid-30s but waiting to TTC?

[TickingOvaries]

Hi all,
I can't be the only one in this situation and looking for buddies! I'm 34 this year (!) and starting to feel a little anxious about my age and that I'm still waiting to TTC... I have an older DC from a previous relationship, been with my boyfriend for 2 years and we are both keen to have a baby together. He has no DC. We don't live together yet, and I'd rather be married before I fall pregnant so I feel like I have to get some ducks in a row before I/we feel it's the right time. I'm on the pill and have been for years, with no periods so I have no idea what my body will do when I do finally stop taking it?
I know I need to chill and just let things get sorted before we TTC but I feel old!

Anyone else?

You can get married for just the cost of a license and the presence of two witnesses off the street, so that doesn’t need to delay you more than the few weeks’ notice to arrange it. Moving in together could take longer if you need to sell and buy properties, but arranging a new joint rental can be quite speedy.
At 34, you probably have a few years of fertility left, but it begins to decline after 35, and is not guaranteed - some unlucky women hit a premature menopause (the earliest patient I saw was 27), so I wouldn’t hang around much longer, OP.

I wouldn't be waiting if I were you, especially given the fact that you have no idea what your natural cycle is like. It could take quite a while before your body gets back to "normal", whatever that normal happens to be now.

Get married at the registrars office and crack on.

@babdoc Yep I'd definitely only want the smallest/fastest wedding ever imagined.
We'd be looking for a joint rental, 3 beds, and within travelling distance of my DC's school and they don't come up super frequently in my area and there as a big slow up before Christmas but hoping more will become available soon.

@QwertyBert Oooh exciting you're a little further along than me in the planning process! Good luck for March!

Hi! Hope you don't mind me following this post! I'm 30 so a little younger but have no children so far. Me and my DP have been talking a lot about having children and he in particular is keen to start as soon as possible. We're getting married in August but only having a very small wedding. It's hard to know when is the right time as I would hate to wait too long however he's going Cambodia next month and so we have to wait then due to the Zika virus. Then I think maybe we should wait till after the wedding but there are exciting prospects coming up at work at the end of the year that I would have to miss if pregnant so I think maybe wait till after that which brings us to this time next year which to me seems a long time to wait! I came off the pill in November just to see what my periods are like as I've not been off contraception since 16/17. A couple of days a go I started my first natural period so that was good to know and I'm planning to keep tracking them and just use condoms. I feel a bit of a fraud on this site but I really enjoy reading everyone's conception stories and it's lovely when you see people getting their BFP

@MayDay27

If I were you, I would get married first, enjoy the Christmas season as a newlywed couple, and then start ttc in the new year. Why rush now when everything will be so hectic with the wedding?

True, we're not having to do much planning for the wedding, it's just a registry office and then we've hired somewhere for a party. I think we will probably wait a year. I suppose since we've never ttc before it's a bit of a worry not knowing how long it will take to happen and not wanting to waste time. It seems everyone around me already has children now.

33 ttc#3 cycle #2, my others children took was between 1-4 months to conceive but I worry now older it won't happen

I'm an extreme case but I've been trying to conceive baby nr 2 since I was 33 and I'm 37 in a couple of months - 5 miscarriages 2 ruptured ectopics means I'm permanently infertile and now starting injections tonight for a 3rd cycle of IVF

I wouldn't wait around.....it might take you a couple of months or it could take you a couple of years - you don't know how easy it will be to get pregnant and stay pregnant

I'd want to be married first though x

I really don’t want to wait too much longer. But I figure DP won’t want to even consider engagement/getting married until we’re properly living together for at least a little bit. But once that’s happened I wouldn’t want to wait for ages to seal the deal because of the TTC thing. Such a balancing act.
I also have a big family holiday in the summer to somewhere with the Zika virus so TTC is pretty much ruled out until the safe period has passed after then.

I'm nearly 37. We moved into our house together 2 years ago next month. I really wanted to get married and also enjoy each other a bit first. Rather than dash into stress/ madness. Plus the house needed (still does) things doing.

We got married in October. So obviously now TTC. I came off the pill in preparation ages ago though. So my cycles were regular and I knew what was going on. It's a balancing act really but I think you can afford to wait a little, just don't leave it too long.

I had my first at 36 and my second at 38. The second I had to take Clomid but it worked on the 2nd round. The amount of older women in antenatal was crazy... I felt young!