Should I give up all Hope?

[Jonicorn]

Hi Everyone,

I have read many forum posts from this website over the years and never really thought to ask my own questions.
I'm not sure about the lingo so I will just write it as it is and hope for the best.

I first found out I have PCOS when I was 22 which was discovered when we first decided we wanted a baby.
I was overweight as standard with PCOS and with every appointment, was sent away with a new idea on how to lose weight.
This went on for years and years, test after test and never any real conclusions but also no success on the weight loss.
This was until last year when I decided to pay for a gastric band to be fitted.
I have now gotten my BMI lower than they needed, and shed 5stone. My body is starting to work as normal and I am recieving 'some' help from the fertility clinic.

I'm wondering if I should give up though. I'm the youngest of 4 daughters, All of my sisters have had children naturally without any problems TTC.
It has now bee 9 years since we started trying and I think its time for me to just hang the idea up and work on accepting that I wont ever be a mother.
Has anyone else ever gone this long?
I see people on here saying theyve tried for a while but not many as long as I and I just think I need to get the hint and give up?

Im looking forward to hearing from you all.

Jonicorn

Hey OP!

Absolutely do not give up if this is something you want! I know plenty of people with PCOS or endo that have been told they will never have children and they have all conceived naturally. Maybe take a short break from TTC, focus on yourself and your relationship and who knows what will happen.

I wish you all the best

Hey @Beau2019,
Thank you for responding.
We took a break from it for a couple of years after being told to lose weight for the millionth time. I sort of lost all hope and said its not meant to be, the stress is too much and I just left it.
It was only once I had lost my weight that I thought I would give it a go again.
I have several friends with PCOS who have gone on to have children naturally.
I worry because all of my sisters have stopped having children now so my child will have no cousins to grow up with.

I have a fertility appointment on 12th February and I really hope I am at least offered clomid

Jonicorn