Would my test come up positive by now?

[kevintheorangecarrot]

My last period was 1st December. Had sex around 14th December, I believe ovulation may of occurred on 21st December (not sure as my period can be a bit haywire, so I'm going by Flo app) but last week my cervical mucus has been quite slippery. It's now back to "normal", dried up and hardly no discharge. As you have probably discovered already I have an intense fear of getting pregnant. I am not really classed as late as my cycles range from 27-35 days, at the moment I am on cycle 33. I took FRER yesterday and it was a BFN! Put my mind at ease for about 5 minutes and now I am panicking again lol. Would it come up positive by now? Am I still early to be testing?

I think you're testing too early, if you noticed more fertile cervical mucus last week, you may have ovulated sometime in the last week so your period might not be due until next week. Did you dtd around your fertile week?

Yes, I did it once but he didn't ejaculate inside me. I know that doesn't mean the chances of pregnancy is nil though.

FRERs can detect pregnancy from up to 6 days before your missed period so it might be too early, or you might not be pregnant. Try waiting until the day after your missed period.

If you had sex on the 14th, and didn’t ovulate until the 21st, you may have missed your fertile window. I believe you’re fertile 4 days before ovulation up until 1 day after. Did you have sex after the 14th at all?

No @Melbs6, only on the 14th. We rarely have it!

@kevintheorangecarrot I think your test would be positive by now. As he withdrew, it wasn’t within your fertile window, and you’ve had a negative test I’d say it’s pretty likely you’re not pregnant. Maybe just take another test if your period doesn’t arrive to confirm

@Melbs6 I hope I'm not! I know many people on here are hoping for a BFP but for me. It would be a disaster to have another baby :( I have ordered 5 sensitive pregnancy tests to come tomorrow, so I will do it then to put my mind at ease until AF arrives. My periods can be so erratic. They are never on time. Last month it came on cycle day 27, the month before was cycle day 33, now today is cycle day 33! I remember a year ago it came 78 days later! The sheer anxiety that caused me was horrendous... must've been the anxiety that caused it! I have generalised anxiety disorder, so I just need to chill the hell out thanks again for your replies. Really appreciate it x

@kevintheorangecarrot I think it's highly unlikely that you will be pregnant if he withdrew. Of course there is always still a chance but it's very slim. Let's put it this way, I've been trying to get pregnant for 5 months doing all the right things etc etc so not as likely for you (as much as they say it is possible)

Just an update: I believe I've come on AF. I went toilet earlier.. tmi but did a no2 as I am constipated and when I wiped, there was bright red blood on the toilet paper after a few wipes, so I'm hoping this is the start of it now. My period usually starts this way then the next day it comes on with a vengeance. Perhaps my straining has told my womb to just start already!

Just wanted to clarify that the bleeding is coming from the front, not the back.

Given that you have intense fear of getting pregnant again, adding the fact that your cycle is all over the place, would it not be best to sort some contraception? Even just condoms would help your anxieties and make it (a LOT) less likely to fall pregnant

You are right @pooopypants theres a walk in clinic open next week so I will be going there first thing. Is there a contraception that's OK to use for those who is at high risk of blood clots except condoms? I am thinking of the depo injection. PS I am married, so I only have 1 partner otherwise I would be using condoms as well as.

Why would you NOT e using some form of contraception if you have a regular partner AND really don't want to get pregnant ? Completely mystified why you would put yourself through this when one quick trip to the GP /clinic would make this not an issue . ?

Yes I know @Mixitupmonday because I am an idiot. Not only that I am worried that it will cause me to have blood clots or bad side effects. Anyway I am going to the clinic next week to discuss the best contraception for me and my health. Ideally, whatever contraception it may be, it cannot increase my risk of blood clots. I am unable to have contraception containing Oestrogen but I have researched that depo doesn't contain that? I need to look more into it. It's abstinence until then!

If pregnancy cause you so much fear I'd sort out contraception does your partner want any more? If you worry about side effects of contraception it's not just up to you would he consider a vasectomy?

@kevintheorangecarrot I have suffered from blood clots in the past and I was able to take Cerazette mini pill as it's safe for a history of blood clots

@kevintheorangecarrot there are PLENTY of contraceptive methods you can use if you have a history of blood clots...

One semi-permanent method is the copper coil which contains no hormones but I am baffled why you haven't been to see a GP about this sooner if this is such a big issue.

Your post would be better suited to a separate thread for advice as the ladies on this post are (most probably) desperate to get pregnant - not the latter. I don't want to sound rude, just wish to be helpful. It's not ideal when someone joins a TTC post with a message saying they it would be a disaster to get pregnant when for some of us that would be a dream come true.

I hope everything works out for you.

@kevintheorangecarrot I do apologise! I did not realise that you were the OP!! So sorry - my fault for being on a similar thread elsewhere