TTC #baby no 1

[chellebelle125]

Hello ladies been in the background for a while reading everybodys storys. Im currently on my 4th try of baby #1 and iv got to say its taking its toll. I came off the pill 1st aug and have to admit im struggling to know my own body again, iv become consumed with trying to figure out if im ovulating and have myself convined that iv left it too late and will never fall. Im 30 my partner is 32 he has 1 child from previous marriage who is 13 going on 25! I need some possitive vibes

Are you using opks?

Yeah been trying them but haven't been doing them religiously and get faint lines sometimes

I know they are tedious but you should start using them consistently as before I was just going off apps when I was ovulating for 4 months without success then tried opks I started testing day couple of days after period ended twice a day morning and evening and found out I was ovulating around 4 days earlier than the app predicted 2 cycles later now 22 weeks pregnant. Fingers crossed for u. X

Since stopping the pill my cycles have ranged from 28-40 days so it's be difficult and like you I've been going off the apps as to when I'm ovulating, I've been at the drs and nurse told me to just listen to my body and go on discharge etc to signs of ovulation, I know it will happen I guess I'm just a little impatient and wanted some reassurance

Hi Chellebelle125 🤗. I’m new to this and currently TTC baby no1. Unfortunately we suffered a mmc in Oct at 11 wks. I feel like Jan is a new start, and it’s now time to try again. Would be lovely to have someone to follow this journey with as there’s not many people know our situation.

Sorry to hear that. Im constantly always putting myself down and always thinking im never going to get pregnant, i guess i thought it would just happen straight away, but i should give it a year as told by the doctors so i just need to relax and enjoy the extra time with OH x

Do you use any fertility apps? Opk’s, take bbt etc? It’s a tough lonely time...I always thought it would would be fun when the time came 😔.

I have the dipstick opks and have very very faint lines just now so im guessing they will get stronger near ovulation, i have folic acid but have forgotton to take it sometimes you would think being on the pill for years i would have remembered lol, it is lonely and because my OH has a daughter i feel its worse for me than him because he keeps saying it will happen when it happens but i just dont feel that way i want it to happen now, i just have to learn to be patient

Yea I remember the first time I used opks and thought any line meant positive, however when it’s positive the lines are as dark as one another! I feel it’s best to do opks twice a day as it’s very easy to miss your LH surge if it happens hours after you do your first, and can be gone the next again day.
I’ve just started using my bbt thermometer today...it’ll give me something to focus on during the waiting game.
Men are a different species for sure...when us women decide we want something we want it now!!

It just all confuses me lol i wont deny that, they make you think its easy getting pregnant but in actual fact iv found it to be very hard and emotionally draining. DTD at times has felt like were only doing it to get pregnant instead of enjoying each other as we should, i put so much pressure on myself to get pregnant by a certain time because everybody iv spoken with has fallen so quick but in reality were all different and my OH is right it will happen when its our time. Its just nice to have people to talk to who know how you feel and to get some advice and tips.

We learn new things everyday for sure! I’m not sure what I actually believed before we started trying, but defo didn’t think it would feel this hard/ that I’d stress so much over it when it didn’t happen.
I’m going to start bbt’ing tomorrow, that should take my mind off things, or at least give me something else to obsess over.
My New Years resolution is to enjoy DTD again...it shouldn’t just be about getting pregnant!

I full agree with that statement lol hopefully BFP for us this year