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[Sunshinexx95]

Hi everyone ♥️
I just woke up today and want to speak to someone in my position. I have been ttc since August and no luck. I know.. it is still too early that is what everyone is telling me. But I really want my bfp.. I just got to know that my older sister is pregnant with her second child. I'm so happy for them. But it kind of stressed me and my husband. We even ended up fighting during my ovulation this month but we managed to dtd. I think I'm 5dpo today. I know it might not happen this month because I got so stressed and sad. And everyone keep saying u won't get pregnant if u don't chill out. How do I chill out? I haven't tested so far and I am an early tester. I'm going on holiday on the 27th to see my parents and coming back 1st. When should I test? I don't want to be disappointed with early or late testing.. please speak to me...😭

Sorry to hear you are struggling. I got a bfn today at 13dpo on my 17th cycle. Its just shite. Every month the disappointment gets a bit more unbearable. No advice really except to say that you are really early days and try to relax. Most people take up to a year to get pregnant so it's really quite normal to not have caught in 4 months.

So sorry 💕🌻 my husband and I took a relaxed approach this month , didn’t schedule sex , didn’t track anything other than the basics of CM (but I didn’t tell him), I noticed he got stressed if he knew I was fertile . So from the day my period ended we DTD every 2-3 days but again, not scheduled , didn’t think about it and just went with the flow . If we didn’t manage sex every or day , we definitely managed on the third day and sperm can last 3 days anyway . My husband took Well Man pills every night from Boots that have zinc etc in and help healthy sperm apparently . Got my BFP two days ago. It was 100% the relaxed approach that did it.
And don’t test til your period is due , or at least the day after it’s due .
Cut out caffeine etc too and meditate , and sleep well. Easier said than done but I promise it’s worth it xx

@Whyhaveidonethis
Thank you for taking your time and writing to me
I know the feeling it is really shit. I don't know what to do anymore I just want to take it easy. But u know it is not easy to just relax.. I know how u feel when u just get bfn.. I just stare at the test and then start crying :. That stressed my husband out.. and then he tells me stop crying it is not going to help. 😭

@itsemily
Congratulations on ur bfp I wish u a very healthy pregnancy. And thank u for taking ur time and writing to me. I know every month I say I will take it easy. This month I didn't schedule either.. I didn't bother. I just dtd when ever we felt like it.
I have been ttc since August when did u start trying? :)
I am 5dpo and not testing. I will test at at least 10 dpo. 😭

@itsemily
I forgot to ask, if I may ask, did u have any symptoms and at what dpo did u test?
Xx

@Sunshinexx95 I really hope this is the month for you , please don’t test at 10dpo as if it’s too early it’ll crush you . I know a lot of people get BFP at that stage but I definitely think it’s worth waiting a few extra days .
We started trying in October , so not much ahead of you so hopefully this is the month for you ! Please keep us updated .
And for me it was strange , I just got agonising breasts at 6DPO which is very early so I assumed it was my period coming , but they were extremely sore to the point where the shower Water hurt them and even wearing a bra ! Then I kind of switched off and didn’t think about it , and then I started to feel sick at 12 days , so I tested as I realised my period hadn’t arrived. You just feel different , you’ll definitely know I think x

@itsemily oh that is so nice 💚 I'm 6 dpo but have no symptoms. I have very bad cough so worried it will affect implantation somehow. :(
Did u have implantation spotting?

Xx merry Christmas and happy new year

Hey @sunshinexx95 I'm also 6dpo and have been trying since August. Since then I know 5 people announcing them or their partner are expecting and it's lovely for them but hard for us!! My boyfriend wanted us to go round to his friends tonight and his gf is pregnant and I just couldn't face it.. we just have the keep trying xxxx

@Sunshinexx95 I hope you feel better soon, try not to think too much about it and carry on as normal . I also recommend DTD continuously, don’t stop just because your fertile window is open as sometimes you can ovulate later . Keep DTD until your period is due .
No I had no implantation symptoms whatsoever . Nothing other than the sore breasts 6DPO and nausea at 12DPO xx

@AliSxo
We will probably be testing around the same time. When did u get positive ovulation test?
I know it is so hard. But we will get our bfp soon as well. We just need to be patient.. I know easy said then done.. 😭but that's is all we can do.
When will u be testing?
I am hoping to wait till 10dpo ...
which will be on Sunday.

@itsemily
I hope I will feel better soon thank you 💚
I do try to dtd all the time and not only during fertile window but sometimes I loose the mood 😅
I have no symptoms so far.. nothing. My breast are a little bit sore but nothing unusual...

How r you feeling? How is Christmas going for u? ☺️ I hope ur feeling good

@Sunshinexx95 I get what you mean , especially after work or if you’re just not feeling it . I couldn’t believe how much went into it , we didn’t get taught about ovulation in school so I was shocked when I read you have to have sex within a certain window !

I’m good thanks , feeling on and off sick and my appetite is a bit off but I feel great thanks and Christmas has been lovely . How long have you got off for Christmas? Did you get what you wanted? X