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How long did it take you to conceive? 36yrs old

63 replies

AshleyLr · 21/12/2019 19:02

Hello,
I'm looking for some personal experiences and would love to hear your stories.

I am getting married in April next year. I realise at 36 I will be classed geriatric Hmm
We want to try and get pregnant as soon after the wedding as possible. I want to know how long it took to conceive if you're an 'older' mum?

My implant was taken out in sept, I have very regular periods....if that helps.

Should I start trying now?

Thank you in advance x

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GrumpyHoonMain · 21/12/2019 20:15

10 years ttc since we got married. 4 years worth of nhs / ivf investigations and treatment since the age of 35 before my bfp, but I have a condition that increases egg reserve even if it reduces egg quality. Some of my similarly aged friends have low egg reserve which means even ivf is less likey to work

Sewingbea · 21/12/2019 20:19

I was very fortunate. Second month of trying for both pregnancies. I was mid thirties.

Pilot12 · 21/12/2019 20:24

I conceived straight away at age 39 (came off the pill after 15 years, had one period then got pregnant).

Conceived second baby at age 42 after five months trying but had mc at 12 weeks.

Conceived again four months later at age 43 and my baby is now six months.

Salene · 21/12/2019 20:26

I was 34 husband 36 for first child, I had been tracking cycle for 3 months. Fell pregnant first month try

2nd baby 2 years later, exactly the same first month trying.

mrsio · 21/12/2019 20:29

At 32 I got pregnant the first cycle, now at 35 I've just found out I'm pregnant on my second cycle. It's very good that your cycle is regular, that can be the biggest battle. I would recommend tracking ovulation as apps only guess ovulation. First time TTC I ovulated on day 15, this time it was day 18 then day 17 so I would have missed my most fertile days if I'd gone purely off what the apps say x

LimpLettice · 21/12/2019 20:30

First at 32 was 3 months ttc. My second was born when I was 41, after 3 m/c and about 15 months of trying. It was a tough time, but I was 12 weeks on the dot at our wedding and it was fine.

That said, I'm now about 7 weeks with a total accident and will be almost 43 if it all goes well.

I think 36 is no great age but it's normal for these things to take a while so get going for now then you can start going mad after the wedding Grin

Lilice · 21/12/2019 20:33

@AshleyLr congratulations on your upcoming wedding!
Everybody is different and these things are hard to predict. #1 and #2 happened straight away for me, first cycle each time. I was 29 and 31. Now I'm 36 and on the 6th cycle of ttc #3 so not as easy this time now that im older. If you don't mind not drinking on your wedding day you could start a month or two before. Normally you wouldn't show until the 3rd or 4th month but then again it depends on people. Good luck!

cookielove · 21/12/2019 20:37

First was conceived just shy of a year after a mmc at 6 months of trying. After mmc we had a break ttc but had an oops and ds1 is the perfect result, i was 32 at the time.

Currently pregnant 17+4, took 3 years ttc with several mc on the way! Aged 37

hambledon · 21/12/2019 20:39

Conception statistics are really skewed. Decades ago people who were trying to conceive in their 30s and 40s were those who had been in relationships before but somehow not fallen pregnant before (perhaps to their secret relief! Ot because of pre existing issues ) Nowadays a far higher proportion are people who are trying to conceive for the first time. And succeeding!

Level75 · 21/12/2019 20:41

6 years and 7 rounds of IVF. Don't wait.

Level75 · 21/12/2019 20:42

Started trying age 31

BuggertheTabloids · 21/12/2019 20:45

First time ever without contraception conceived 1st month at 38, and again 2nd month of trying at 40. I know I am lucky.
Apparently if your mum/maternal aunts had late menopause eg mid fifties then you are likely to be ok as fertility drops ++ 10 years before menopause.

doublebarrellednurse · 21/12/2019 20:45

You're not geriatric till you're 40 in my trust 🎉

I'm 37. 13 yr old DS.

Two years to conceive

doublebarrellednurse · 21/12/2019 20:46

Should add I'm 31w pregnant now and THAT pregnancy took two years

Was 24 with DS13 and took 3 months to conceive him.

Nat6999 · 21/12/2019 20:47

I was 6 weeks off my 38th birthday when ds was born. It took us 18 months to get pregnant to term, I had 2 early miscarriages the year before, the first I didn't realise I was pregnant until the miscarriage, we were getting married a month later & I had just put my late period down to pre wedding stress, I started in pain at work, went to the toilet & realised something wasn't right, a trip to A & E later I knew I was miscarrying. The second one I had a positive test one week & a week later had a very heavy period like bleed, it was a chemical pregnancy. We had just been referred to the fertility clinic when I found out I was pregnant with ds, we had been married 9 months when i found out.

3GIANTSTRAWBERRIES · 21/12/2019 20:52

9 months both times, first time I was 36, second time I was 38. Good luck x

Nat6999 · 21/12/2019 20:54

I also had 4 miscarriages after ds, the last one I was 44 who I lost at 15 weeks. I have been diagnosed with several auto immune diseases & endometriosis, all of which contribute to miscarriages. If you do have the misfortune to suffer any miscarriages, ask to be checked out for auto immune disorders as they are very common in women who suffer miscarriages, but most are easily managed to aid a succesful pregnancy.

Winterdaysarehere · 21/12/2019 20:55

First month ttc at 37.
Second month at 42.

BabyMoonPie · 21/12/2019 21:02

I think geriatric is 40 now! It took me 8 months to conceive aged 35/36. Now trying for number 2 - I'm 39 and we're into month 12.

Bringiton2019 · 21/12/2019 21:04

TTC for 8 months with first at 33 ( unfortunately baby was born sleeping)

Aged 34, started TTC for 13 months, we had NHS investigations and DH (now ex) had very low sperm. Referred for IVF but when I went for first appointment I was pregnant.......with twins!!!!

Good luck, don't stress. Congratulations on your wedding x

Sammyclaire22 · 21/12/2019 21:10

At 32 It took us 12 months and then it was ectopic so I lost my left tube too. I managed to conceive the month after and now have a 16mo, and I'm on cycle 3 of ttc no2. I personally wouldn't wait if its something you both really want as you dont know how long it will take. I have always had really regular cycles and tracked my fertile window etc etc, oh had tests done for another reason so no idea why it took so long 1st time and I'm assuming this time will be even longer if it happens for us at all (I'm 34 now)

Dollop56 · 21/12/2019 21:45

Hi everyone! I was on the pill for about 10 years and I stopped taking it in July last year.
Since then I have had normal periods but have been trying to get pregnant since August. I feel like it’s taking ages. I’m 27. Any advice???

jennymac31 · 21/12/2019 21:55

I stopped taking the pill and it took 6 months to conceive DC1 (age 32) and 5 months to conceive DC2 (age 36).

I would hold off ttcing until after the honeymoon though.

YorkshirePud1 · 21/12/2019 22:00

I'm 37 and 19 weeks pregnant with our first baby. I conceived the second month of trying, so pretty quickly! I really thought it would take longer so feel very lucky.

BelfastNonBlonde · 21/12/2019 22:03

Married May pregnant August and we weren’t “trying”, just not being careful at all.
Very fortunate I know.
I’m 35.
I wasn’t on any hormonal birth control before.

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