Miscarriage at 6 weeks (chemical pregnancy?!)...How to be positive?

[Gemma0711]

Hey everyone!

Hoping some people who've been through similar can help me.

PLEASE no horror stories!

I lost my first pregnancy at 7 weeks on Saturday. I'm heartbroken. The bleeding is slowing down and is no down to spotting. I also had to leave my part time job on the same weekend, because they wanted me to go in and serve in a pub/restaurant on a friday night, DURING a miscarriage.

I have heavy painful periods, and terrible PMS, but have had a laparoscopy and been told all is fine.

BUT I am absolutely terrified about my next pregnancy. I'm going out of my mind with worry, I turn to google for everything, and that of course means I'm getting all sorts of horror stories (I realise the irony in this post!). I just wondered if anyone could advise me on thinking positive, and how to calm down....And how to stay away from googling things? Now that my fear has already happened, I feel twice as scared. Some days I'm quite positive, but today I feel terrified to even try again. I think it was just a chemical pregnancy? But I was so excited and I'm now just terrified that the worst is going to keep on happening!

What do I do? How do I calm myself down?

I lost my baby at 13 weeks and then went on to have another beautiful son. I'm 6 weeks pregnant and yesterday I got told I had miscarried one of my identical twins; the yolk sac was very large and that's a good indication of identical twins apparently. The odds of having another miscarriage so close is very low but I'm still apprehensive.

I found during the second pregnancy once I'd got to 16 weeks I just felt calmer. I also think that when you've been so low over a loss you never go back to the same level because you're stronger and you've learnt how to deal with it mentally. It will happen xx