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When's the best time to get pregnant? Use our interactive ovulation calculator to work out when you're most fertile and most likely to conceive.

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Brooke199 · 17/12/2019 21:31

Hello I just wanted some advice I don’t want to be judged but it’s been constantly playing on my mind. I had my last period on the 23rd of October and I will be 8 weeks exactly tomorrow. I had a one night stand on the 30th of October embarrassing (so ashamed) I don’t even remember much not sure he actually ejaculated. Then I was with my partner on the 2nd,3rd and 4th. My ovulation was on the 7th of November possibly 8th. I really hope it is my partner does anyone have any thoughts too scared to speak to the dr atm.

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AliSxo · 17/12/2019 21:44

Hey hun! No judgement from me! It sounds likely that it's your partners as sperm can't survive more than 5 days but there could be a low chance it's not his. Could you look into getting a test done to save you some peace of mind? Xx

Mimi91 · 17/12/2019 21:48

If you ovulated on 7th/8th, the chances are it's your partner's. Sperm can only live up to five days, so i guess it depends on how sure you are that you ovulated when u say u did.

Does your partner know you're pregnant? Have you got any support IRL?

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Brooke199 · 17/12/2019 22:10

I have looked into tests but they are really expensive to do it before birth. I haven’t told my partner yet because I was worried if it wasn’t his. My ovulation dates right as I’ve been monitoring it for months. I did read in some cases sperm last 7 days which has thrown me.

Thank you both for no judgement and your responses

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Jeleste · 17/12/2019 22:14

Much higher chance that its your partners. However, you cant be certain until you test it.

Mimi91 · 18/12/2019 07:28

@Brooke199 must be really scary, you shouldn't go through this alone though.

If you can't face telling your partner yet, could you take the first step of ringing the doctors? Doctors/midwives are professionals and should be able to give you the right advice and support.

BlueEyedFloozy · 18/12/2019 07:33

Likely your partner's but you won't know until you can test for sure as it's very close and there's always margin for error when it comes to ovulation.

With that aside I think you need to come clean to your partner as it's not fair on him to proceed supporting you through the pregnancy under false pretences.

Oneforposy7 · 18/12/2019 07:34

Of course no one can say 100% but I think the chance of you getting pregnant on CD7 (30th) are very slim when you know when you ovulated and that was another week later. Good luck OP. Must be very stressful and upsetting.

Beau2019 · 18/12/2019 11:08

Hi Lovely,

Firstly, so sorry you are going through this, it must be awful. I'm going to make a few presumptions on your cycle to hopefully try and clear a few things up.

Based on an average 28 day cycle, you will ovulate on around CD14 -
23rd Oct - CD1
30th Oct - CD8
2nd, 3rd & 4th Nov - CD11, 12 & 13

I have read contracting info on how long sperm can live, anything from 3 to 7 days. The ONS was on CD8 so unlikely that this will be conception night and the odds are definitely on your partners side here.

The only way you will ever know is by doing a DNA test. Try and work back your dates if you can, if you are clued up with your cycles that is.

Good luck and try not to stress too much

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