A bit of background... I have 18 month twin girls and both DH and I would love to have another child at some point. Originally we were planning to wait 3/4 years...mainly to save and also because of my work (I work in research and it would be great in an ideal world to progress a bit in my career before another mat leave!).
However... I also have lupus and pregnancy was risky (and ended up being very difficult). I am worried that if I wait longer it's going to only get more risky / difficult and might also lead to my condition getting more problematic, i.e. trigger a flare which causes ongoing problems. I had quite serious kidney probs during pregnancy which thankfully resolved afterwards. But a second time I might not be so lucky.
I guess the obvious answer is "seek expert advice" but the problem is that it's hard to predict. So I'm in a quandary! Should we try now, while I'm young(ish) and healthy and there's less risk? Or take a risk and wait? Or, alternatively, be happy that we have two gorgeous, healthy girls who have a healthy mum and not try again at all?
I'm in such a quandary about this that I'd truly be thankful for any input or advice at all!