Anyone starting TTC January?

[donut8]

We have decided we are going to start trying in January for our first baby. I would love to start trying now but we've decided to wait till January for financial reasons. I won't be ovulating till around 20th either so I still have so long to wait even once we're in January! Anyone want to wait with me?

Hi @donut8 !
This is my first post on this forum :)
I'm also going to start my TTC journey in January (well, actually we've decided to start on the 25/12 as a Xmas gift to ourselves hah!).
However, since getting off the pill (Rigevidon, after 7 years) on the 15/09 I haven't had a "real" period yet... I'm 99% sure that I'm ovulating, since I am CM and BBT tracking, but in October no AF whatsoever, and in November only had very very light brown discharge for 4 days (not enough for a tampon). I had very normal periods before/during pill...
Can't help but worry about this, if the pill has messed up my reproductive system, and if it's going to take forever to get pregnant ?!
Anyway, will you be starting to TTC on the 01/01/20 as a NY treat then? :)

Hi @mimmi91
Happy first post!
I'm sure it hasn't messed anything up. I came off my pill in February and it took about 6/7 months for my period to become regular and like you there was months where I was so light I didn't need a tampon. I think my longest was around 45 days without a period so there was a month I didn't have one either. You can still get pregnant though as long as you ovulate so it sounds like you'll be fine as you think you are
Yes as soon as January hits I will be TTC! I wanted December but husband is having none of it lol I'm not due to ovulate though until around the 17th so will have to wait till end of month before I know anything which sucks.

Thanks @donut8!
I definitely hope ovulation is enough to get pregnant before my "real" period comes along, because it's so hard to wait for something my body is supposed to do naturally. Wish I'd stopped taking it a long time ago, like you did!
That must be frustrating to wait for January just because your husband says no... May I ask why 1 month makes a difference to him? :)
Because surely you should be ovulating in the next few days, so I guess you could get a month's head start...
We've decided to wait until Jan simply because my husband is going to do an MBA from January onwards, so it would be much more practical if a baby comes at the end / after he graduates, rather than halfway through his course!

Morning,

I'm at the ummming and ahhhing stage! My current pill pack runs out next week, the stash I have runs out mid March. Trying to decide whether to stop taking after this pack or wait! I have reasons to not want to be pregnant until end of March, but I am sure my body will take a few months to get back to normal!

So I guess I'll be trying to NOT conceive in Jan, but MAYBE have started the journey to TTC

Hi @jaffacakegal !
I DEFINITIVELY recommend getting off the pill asap, so that you can avoid the crazy frustration I currently have over my cycle getting back to normal.
I wish I'd stopped taking my pill a year ago when I first thought about it. The only thing you need to do is convince your partner to start using condoms... Which, if he cares about you and your health, he shouldn't have a problem with, since it's your body...
We've been using condoms for the past few months, and honestly it makes him even more excited to start TTC in January...

@mimmi91 yea you should be fine, as long as you ovulate you can baby make lol
It is! Well we were planning to pay off all our debt first but it won't be paid off till March but we then thought only a couple months won't make a difference so we agreed January. So now I suppose he's like we agreed January we need to stick to it. He's also doing work on his car which is costing a lot of money and time too so I think he can't focus on anything else right now. I'm due to ovulate end of next week! I keep trying to persuade him but think he's getting a bit annoyed with me now so I'll think I'll stop. Oh also I keep complaining about work cause it's rubbish atm so he thinks I only want to start trying cause I don't want to be at work lol
Yes that does make sense, sounds like the right thing to do. When are you next due to ovulate? I just wish I knew how long it would take, would be so much easier to make decisions then lol

@JaffaCakeGal I would definitely recommend coming off the pill now and using other means as it took me about 6/7 months to have regular periods again and it was a bit stressful. It took longer for me to get back to normal then I thought it would.
@mimmi91 I was hoping not using condoms would mean he would be keen to start trying to but apparently not haha and we've been using them for nearly a year!

@mimmi91 It would be me rather than him not wanting to use condoms TBH I just know last time I came off for a break it took 6 months to get a period! But this time around I've been getting spotting anyway quite frequently so I don't know if it would take as long!

@donut8 cross posted - same here with the 6 months! I wasn't TTC then but it still made me a bit frustrated.

We'll be TTC in February. We get married on 29/02/20 so can start TTC mid Feb. Super excited!

I had the oil removed beginning of November so I'm hoping we might be lucky and not take too long to conceive.

@Butterflyflower1234 congrats on your upcoming wedding! Its exciting when you've made a decision to start isn't it. I'm just at the impatient stage now and just want to start lol have you started doing lots of reading up on it and looking at these forums?

It will be out your system for a few months so you've got a great chance. I am hoping we conceive in Jan or Feb as we won't be trying in March as don't want a December baby. My birthday is just before xmas and between me and my husband we have 3 siblings birthdays in December too

@donut8 I have been doing bits of reading. I have the Pregnancy for dummies book but obviously I can only read that at home as I don't want everyone to know we're TTC.

I have hoped if we're lucky with the first date then due date would be 28/11/20 which is enough time before Christmas. You're right though as a December baby is always a little more difficult.

Have you found any useful books/websites so far?

@Butterflyflower1234 oooh I haven't seen that book is it good? I am hoping the same but I also don't want to get my hopes up. My husbands brother conceived first try with his wife but it took my brother a year.

I haven't actually looked at any books yet (although will now look at the one you mentioned) but I've been on a few websites. Honestly the most helpful has been the NHS one, there is so much information on there

I have twins on my mothers side too so I've been doing lots of reading on twins as my chances are double anyone else's although not sure how likely that is. Probably a waste of time lol

Am on the fence but could possibly be having a go for 2nd baby in jan. We have decided we want another one, just trying to decide on timing. Of course we know if we try in jan we might not be successful anyway so can't guarantee the timing but it's just whether to decide to ditch the contraceptive and see what happens or whether to wait a while longer. Current DD is 3 months. Have met a few with what would be a similar gap and it seems to work well for them. But baby number 2 would definitely be the final one for us.

Good luck to all. Might see you in a BFP post in March maybe

Yes I've looked at NHS for foods we can't eat. I do think the book is good but it's huge! It'll take a while to read for sure but should be comprehensive.

@GrassWasGreener is there anything in particular that is making you think you might wait a while longer? For us we just wanted to get our finances in order. Interesting to hear about the close age gap, everyone I know has about 2 years minimum.

@Butterflyflower1234 I bet there is a lot we can't eat? I've been reading about caffeine and how much we can have of that. That's good I think I'm going to buy it!

I haven't started reading any books either, I feel like it would jinx everything!
I'm only preparing so much as taking folic acid, not drinking too much alcohol, and even ordered Pre Seed on amazon the other day!

I think finances are always the most common problem halting baby making. It'll be somewhat similar for me, considering my husband may still be studying when I get pregnant (hence no job = no salary + student loans to pay off). But then again I feel like it is never perfect timing for anyone. I personally can't wait any longer, my biological clock is ticking like crazy, and I almost cry every time I see a pregnant woman or a baby! And I'm "only" 28 years old.

How old are you girls?

@donut8 a few things, money is always considered in any decision but also we have a farm so aiming to time things to try and keep life as simple as possible. Our age, we don't want to get much older. Am not over the hill or anything but it is a factor for both of us. Also We thought that if DD is still young we won't have any problems as she won't know any different. Would rather give a few consecutive years to young babies in one go than to just get some time back for myself when first baby is heading to nursery etc and have to give more time to another new baby. Not that I begrudge the time, of course I don't, we have just been talking and would rather do it this way. Met a few mums with a 15 month old and 6 month old and they really liked the gap. Said it worked really well for them so we are going to give it a go

@donut8 plus, am still squishy from first pregnancy, rather than work hard to lose it to only put it back on again is not appealing lol. If we have last baby sooner rather than later, can relax and remain squishy and then deal with the wobbles only one haha (obviously the least relevant reason)

*only once

That's what happens when trying to type while feeding

@mimmi91 ha that's funny you said that cause that exact thought of jinxing crossed my mind too! I started taking folic acid too and bought pre-seed too lol I don't drink alcohol anyway so that's a bonus for me. I've mentioned to a couple of friends we'll be trying to conceive in January and I partially regret it as if it takes a long time I think I will feel worse that people know we are trying and not succeeding. They are both trying January too.

Yea I agree that's why we decided to bring it forward even before our debt is paid off because I am ready now and as you said there is no perfect time. I'm 32 next week so bit more pressure for me time wise, my biological clock is definitely ticking! I would love to give birth whilst I am still 32, think it will just make me feel better lol as if we have a second I will be knocking on 35s door

@donut8 I think 32 is such a normal age to have your first child in this day and age :) Most of my friends my age (28) don't even have boyfriends yet hah! They would even judge me for wanting kids already! But I understand what you mean about the age pressure still, I feel like we all think we're under pressure, no matter what age we are!! I have this weird "internal deadline" hope that I can give birth before I'm 30 (am turning 29 in August 2020) so hopefully that's achievable.

I've also hinted to my family that 2020 would be the year we'll start trying, but haven't been specific with an actual timing for that exact reason. If it takes lots of time, I'd rather not have that kind of pressure. But I do know my cousin will also start trying soon, and I feel like it'll become a bit of a race in our family... But it's so nice that you've got 2 friends to talk to about this stuff (despite the time pressure thing...)

What's truly awful about this is that I haven't even started TTC yet, and I'm already worrying about everything that can go wrong (starting with my cycle that's still not normal)! I bet I'll be worrying my ass off this entire process, which sucks... (hence why I've come to this forum I guess). I wish I was the kind of person who didn't worry at all, and could just TTC without over-thinking everything.

Hi! Hoping to join you all in the count down!

We plan to start ttc next month, I'm currently ovulating which is making me crazy but DH won't budge either so one more cycle to go!

I already have DD but having had an ovary removed and miscarriage I'm already getting nervous about it all
We did conceive first time both times so really hoping I won't have long to wait

@GrassWasGreener hearing you say that about reasons to have another baby soon actually makes a lot of sense. I don't know why but I've always said 2 years age gap but there is no actual reason for it. I suppose it would be good to get both early stages done quickly and clock is ticking for me a bit too especially with having a second. And yes to the squishy bits!! I would feel the same, whats the point in sorting them out just to get them again lol

Hi everyone, my first post on here too!
Me and my OH are planning on TTC in January too, this will be for our first. But I had my coil removed two weeks ago, and I ovulated just a few days ago so we thought we would give it a go before we start really trying. My period is due on Christmas Day but I doubt we’ll be that lucky first time.
I’m already driving myself a little crazy with the wait for next month!