I don't know whether it's actually possible to do this (mentally I mean) but we've decided to give ttc a miss for a while, after 21 months of trying. We're still not going to use any contraception but we're stopping all hospital treatment and I'm going to to try not to count the days any more and just try to focus elsewhere.
I'm convinced we haven't been successful because my mind isn't in the right place. I need to have some bereavement counselling to sort out how I feel about my mum's and other family members' deaths and I don't think I'll be ready to conceive until I've dealt with this.
Good luck to everyone else ttc and thanks for all the support I've had on these boards over the last 21 months. See you on the other boards x